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"Don't be one of them people just twiddlin' them thumbs... "

 

So much truth to all of this... just thought I'd share...

"Rock on gold dust woman, take your silver spoon, dig your grave... "

 

Happy February... happy apparently 6 more weeks of winter... happy Justin Timberlake rocked the halftime show... and happy I-think-I've-already-posted-on-here-more-in-the-last-month-than-I did-all-last-year.   Go me, with that resolution! 

The other day I posted photos of my craft room.  You can see that here if you missed it.  And thank you so very much for your kind comments & positive feedback! ♥

Continuing on with more of the tour... these are photos from the first floor.  I'll do another post soon with the rest of the 2nd floor once I get everything edited.  My favorite app for editing photos lately is A Color Story.  It's great for lightening up photos, especially for rooms that do not get a lot of good natural light.  And it's easy to edit right from my phone since goodness knows almost all my photos are taken with my phone these days, while my Canon just sits there collecting dust.  Pitiful.  But when phone cameras are convenient AND take good quality photos... I mean... why bother?? 

So this old TV armoire was the inpsiration & starting point for the whole room.  I really wanted it to be a funky, bright statement piece.  And at the time, I found myself "pinning" a lot of painted furniture on Pinterest, so I decided to tackle it based on some suggestions of paint that promised minimal prep work because sometimes I'm lazy...

Velvet Finishes paint is made specifically for furniture & requires no sanding or primer... just a clean surface of course.  The color I chose is HANDSOME.  Literally.  And figuratively in my opinion.  LOL

I really love how it turned out.

And while I was at it, I painted old tables that used to be silver or black with a can of gold spray paint.  All of this took place in the garage & let's just say that I shouldn't have left the can of spray paint laying on the garage floor.  Because while the newly painted beautiful blue armoire was still sitting there, I decided it would be a great idea to back up my car over the can of gold spray paint, causing it to explode & violently spray gold paint everywhere, including onto the blue armoire AND my tire. 

I mean... I'm totally into bling & sparkle as you probably know...  but a gold tire was a little much.   

So... I suggest you don't do that & you'll likely not need 3 coats of paint on your furniture.  Ahem...

Oh & I spray painted the knobs gold for the armoire too.  What can I say except it's easy to get on a roll once you get a can of paint in your hands...

 

As I've said before, Bryn has a great eye for design & is very creative & artistic.  She made a couple of the pieces of art hanging in this room based off inspiration found on Pinterest.  White canvas, black paint... again... it's very cheap to make, but would cost a lot more money to buy it...

Design on a dime was my motto, so repurposing what I had &/or altering things I purchased at Ikea was how it all went down.  It was really a mix of mostly old stuff with some new stuff thrown in.  I also decided to just leave the paint on the walls white for now so I could play with more pops of color & pattern in all the rooms. 

Again... very different from my other house which had more color on the walls there.  

This Ikea light makes me really happy.  So cheap, but such a cool piece that also catches your eye.  And I love the shadow it casts on the ceiling at night...

I'm an 80's girl & I will always love my albums.  Gotta love that record player I received as a gift a few years ago so I can still play the albums too...

There are quite a few references to Bloom in the accessories in several rooms of my home.  Kinda love that place...  just sayin'. 

That print of the girl dancing was a gift & has my name in her body.  Are you kidding me right now???  So cool...

 

More Ikea purchases with the counter stools & chairs.  Cheap white chairs that had an aluminum base to them that I again used gold spray paint to change the look.  Honestly I think they look less "cheap" with the gold, but they also match the room better that way too. 

The kitchen table was not cheap, so I figured I could get away with mixing that almost farmhouse look of the table with modern chairs. I found it a few years ago at West Elm.  Love love that store.  Wish they were local.  

As for the corks... I'd like to say I didn't partake in drinking all those bottles of wine, but I'd be lying.  So try to focus on the cute little Bloom ornament instead...

 

Recently I organized the pantry after getting inspiration from The Home Edit on Instagram.  Again with my design on a dime motto... most of what I used as storage was found at the dollar store.  And I had almost paid like 5X that amount at Target, but decided to look there first instead...

These chalk board markers will write directly onto glass or plastic surfaces & then easily erase with a paper towel too...

I almost painted all the cabinet door pullls gold too, but my laziness kicked in & said... You know... you can mix metals & stick with some silver stuff instead of all gold, DUH. 

Plus I really don't like anything to be too matchy-matchy anyway, so laziness won out. 

But I do have a goal to get a backsplash & also get rid of the ugly sink & faucet.  I'd like to switch it out for a big white porcelain sink with something gold & yummy like this faucet.  Be still my heart...

This fish is totally my buddy & I'm not ashamed to admit it. 

We get each other.  In other words, he doesn't bark & wake me up in the middle of the night so he's totally low maintenance. 

He gets that I'm not low maintenance & sometimes go out of town for a week leaving him without food.  And that I'm not great about cleaning the poor thing's bowl regularly. 

I mean... he's like Gloria Gaynor & will survive my occasional bad parenting.  Honestly though, I probably care way too much about that fish, but it's really the only living thing in my house other than maybe an aloe plant, when Bryn's not with me. 

You're my boy, Blue...

Moving on... this is just the main floor half-bath right off the entryway.  And surprise, surprise... there's more gold spray paint! 

Are you getting sick of it yet? 

At least it's not gold polka dots. 

We'll get to more of that on the next post... much to Bryn's dismay...

This "shelf" was a bright turquoise blue color when I purchased it, but I decided to paint it gold & use it to store extra toilet paper... a decision that Bryn suggested when we found it at Hobby Lobby. 

Love that she can see beyond the obvious in that brain of hers.

As for the cat photo, I think I probably found the inspiration from Pinterest.  Decided to make my own version of whatever I had seen... found a photo of a cat with it's tongue sticking out somewhere online, then added the text Dat Ass & printed it.  What can I say except it makes me laugh & I thought it was good bathroom humor...

 

OK then...

More to come soon with the rest of the tour. 

Happy Monday & I hope you have a great week ahead!!   

Hold my beer and watch this...

 

Decided to start getting some photos to post a little house tour on here, based on some feedback I received.  I may do it over the course of a few days though, so it's not one big mile-long post.  Which it seems this one might be anyway. 

That being the case, I figured I'd get Bryn on board for cleaning her room since, well, the bed is rarely made & clothes are always all over the place... mostly the floor.  And if I'm going to post photos, there should at least be the illusion that her room is untouched by a teenager.  Nothing but realness here, folks.  Honestly, I've given up on arguing about it & most of the time I just close her door so it's out of sight. I'm all about the old trick that if I can't see it, then it doesn't exist.  However, if she caves & gives me a clean room once a week, I'm good.

 

So we had this conversation...

Me:  Soooo, Bryn...  I need you to do me a favor.

Bryn:  What is it?

Me:  I need you to clean your room so it's photo-worthy.

Bryn:  Why is a TV station coming to film it?

Me:  laughing... Uh, no, but that's funny.  And is that the only way I can get you to agree? 

 

Two things are funny about that...

1. Is it too much to ask for a kid to clean their room without a tv crew coming over?? 
2. It is probably weird that we have had that happen at my old house twice. 

 

Great Day St Louis came over to film my craft room back in 2010 & 2011.  And I went back to look at the links I provided on my blog, but I guess there's no archives for video that far back on KMOV because apparently it's been deleted.  Which stinks since I have no recording of it either. 

But I did save this screen shot from the 2nd episode on their website.  Bryn & I were both sitting at our desks pretending to be working...

Another illusion that I sit at home in high heels to do scrapbooking.  Only on TV, folks, only on TV...

The topic for that episide was "mom caves" so they did an interview & video about the entire craft room. 

The first time they came over though was to do a shoot on my wrapping paper station.  A friend of mine knew Claire Keeling who used to do their interviews back then & she told her about my craft room, so they called me.  Here's some pictures from the prep for that shoot.  The drawers I had installed were extra long so they could hold rolls of wrapping paper.  And all the cards on the counter were cards that I've made.  She asked me about the larger of the two card spinners.  It was actually an old paint chip card holder from a paint store that my sister didn't want anymore so she gave it to me...

The room was pretty big... 565 square feet of bliss.  If you were ever looking for me back then, it was highly likely that I was in that room.  I have significantly down-sized to a small bedroom for my craft room/office, but I love it just the same.  You can see the old room in it's entirety & read more details about it here. 

 

And here's my current room.  It's a lot less pink & green, and a lot more white.  And it's a lot smaller.  The zebra print rug HAD to be there again though even if it does take up almost the entire room.  I love that thing...

I'm not crazy about the scrapbooks being in all different colors/patterns.  May invest in the same color for all of them eventually.  There's even more inside the walk-in closet too.  I've used that closet as an extension of the room, so it's where I have my printer, cutting board, card spinners & additional storage.  Not quite like the other "wrapping paper station" I once had, but I can close the door to the unorganized non-pretty stuff so that makes me happy...

 

You'll begin to notice that I have those gold polka dots on the wall in a few of the rooms in our house.  They're self-stick decals that I found on Etsy.  I love them.  It gives the illusion that I have a wall-papered wall, but much easier & they're removeable if I ever get sick of them.  Bryn sarcastically asked me at one point if I was going to put them in every room.  I said, "Well I don't know... I just might!"

She's got a really great eye for design, but her advice on polka-dot excessiveness fell on deaf ears. 

Kind of the same way she ignores my request to clean her room... 

 

 

"I'm mrs extra extra this just in... you want a piece of me... "

 

 

Oh my how this makes me happy.  Have you ever used My Social Book to create a scrapbook of all your Facebook photos, posts, comments, etc?  I mean, it's ALL literally in there... every single comment & memory.  How COOL is that?!  I have a book for every year since I've been on Facebook (except last year & I'm patiently waiting for another coupon to order it... never never pay full price). 

Very easy to use though.  They pull all the content for you & do all the design work once you grant access.  You'll get a preview of the book prior to ordering, but the rest is like opening a surprise gift on Christmas morning. 

Who knows if anyone will ever read them, let alone care, but they look cute on my coffee table & they are certainly a great extension of our scrapbooks with content that likely would've never made it into those books.  

And let's be honest.  Do I even scrapbook anymore??  This could be the only thing I end up with from last year, at the rate I'm going.  Ugh... 

  

 

Happy FriYAY & I hope you have a fantastic weekend!  I'm just happy to be finally be getting over the flu.  Although I gotta admit... I'm super happy there was a lot of energy in that room today to make up for the lack of mine.  Whewwwwweee... this week has been a doozie!  

And the following might accurately sum me up, since I'll pretty much show up under any circumstance... but I finally waved the white flag on Tuesday & surrendered. LOL

 

"It's a beautiful day... don't let it get away... "

 

I want to start by saying thanks for all the love last time.  Truly.  And I particularly liked the handful of laughing face reactions, since it wasn't meant to be too serious of a post.  My writing style has changed over the years to be more similar to the way I would actually speak with humor &/or sarcasm if I was telling the story.  This also means sometimes I use slang or it's not totally grammatically correct, but rest assured it's intentional & that I do know a sentence doesn't end with a preposition.  

Which reminds of that joke about the southern lady on the airplane...

Southern lady to other passenger:  Where y'all from?

Passenger:  Where I'm from, we don't end a sentence with a preposition.

Southern lady:  Oh.  Well where y'all from, bitch?   

 

Anyway... I read some posted comments  yesterday from a few friends who's day didn't begin as planned & left them running late or missing out altogether... in this case on the way to the gym that morning.     

It happens to all of us at one time or another, headed to the gym or not.   We wake up with a plan for the day only to have life say to us... nope, I don't think so. 

 

As a parent I also understand how much time it takes to get multiple people out the door.  When Bryn was younger, she even had a doll carrier & car seat we had to use.  Her dolls went everywhere with us, thankfully not all at the same time, but she'd take turns & make sure everyone got their fair share in time out of the house.  She'd tell me, "they are real babies, mama" and would request that I treated them as such.  

Of course I always tried my best, even apparently being so convincing in my attempts, that one time a stranger asked me how old my baby was while I was sitting in the airport holding one of them.  I had a strange look on my face I'm sure & said, "um, it's a doll."  She laughed nervously & awkwardly walked away. 

Man I miss those days, even if I did look like an idiot.

 

What I loved about the stories I heard yesterday though, was that even in the midst of the chaos of their morning, they still found a bright side to it all.  Whether they arrived late that morning or ended up going to an evening class instead... they left in a better mood than when they walked in.  And I totally get it, because no matter how I've ever walked into the gym, good days or not, I ALWAYS leave happier. 

There's something about the camaraderie of being around others with similar goals, even if sometimes the goal is simply just to get some ME time with or without the workout.

 

And this doesn't even have to be about heading to the gym.  Insert any other event in our day to day lives that could cause frustration in how we thought our day should go. 

It's all about perspective.  And there's always a bright side if you make the choice to look for it. 

And usually there's a lot more we can find with what's right in our lives than what's wrong.

 

So...  after receiving a random & very inspiring email/story from my sister yesterday... and then also received the following email from my Dad, who forwards The Daily Motivator to us every day, I felt compelled to share this...

 

For a moment, for a day, for a lifetime, appreciate what is. Whatever may happen, whatever may be, choose to see it with a perspective of gratitude and appreciation.

Not every day is filled with blue skies and sunshine. Not everything you undertake turns out the way you wanted.

Even so, you always have much to appreciate. There is always value to be found, always goodness to be lived.

Always, when you decide to find something to appreciate, you will. Have faith that there's a positive way forward, and you'll see it.

Although the weather may turn nasty, and people may disappoint you, there's no cause to be dismayed. For somewhere in the day, somehow in the situation is real value.

Remind yourself to appreciate what is, and you'll see that value. Appreciate what is, and position yourself to make the very best of it.

-Ralph Marston

 

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness.. only light can do that... "

 

Well... here we go 2018.  New year... new "resolutions."  

 

I have to say... I've struggled with getting back to writing for awhile now... something I was so regular about at one time... something that's always been a creative outlet for me & my most comfortable way of communicating.  The lack of writing is of no surprise here, as most of my blog posts in the last year or so usually began with something like... "well, it's been awhile..."

Considering I've had this blog for about 10 years, that's frustrating. 

Part of my recent hesitation to resume writing on a public platform is that I'm going through a divorce.  And because of that I have to be aware of & careful about what's on social media.  So please refrain from commenting with regard to that topic right now... and thank you.  ♥♥♥ I suppose I felt that I could at least post fitness-related stuff though... or family trips & holidays... but then, I never really got back to blogging even with regard to those topics.   

Not sure exactly what I was doing during this time of not writing, but I gotta be honest... I guess I did occasionally keep up with the Kardashians.  And their fondness for a tossed salad in a clear plastic container in like every episode reminded me I should start making more of those... even though I'm kind of lazy & it takes time to chop all that stuff up.  It is a healthier alternative to popcorn & wine though, so I call that a win for some of the senseless time they've sucked from me. 

Anyway... enough of my disappearance into reality TV.  Let's give this blogging thing a whirl instead. 

One thing I can speak of with regard to the past year are endings & new beginnings...

 

1. I had big changes with regard to my job this past year.  2017 began with another studio closing, just a couple weeks prior.  After over 2 years of teaching there, it was safe to say there was a lot of disappointment & shock as far as emotions go...  and I think I speak for all of us... both instructors and members.  And while I still see a lot of the faces I was blessed to see on a regular basis, there's many faces I no longer see & wonder how people are doing.  A lot of friendships are formed at the gym.  We have FUN while we're there & connections are made because of how much time is spent there with each other.  In addition to that job, my time with another gym came to an end in April, which was totally unplanned & extremely disappointing to say the least.  It's where it all started for me... and I could go on & on for days about how much my class peeps impacted & changed my life like I could've never imagined...  but I made the decision it was time to move on once my eyes were finally opened.
2. When one, or rather two, doors close though... another opens WIDE.  You have to have faith in this, whether you realize it during your crying & kicking time or not.  Positive things have continued to happen & goodness is ALWAYS in the horizon if you stay present & trust God in your life journey.  
3. Besties, friends, comrades and acquaintances... for a reason, for a season, for a lesson.  At a few months shy of 50, I'm still trying to figure this one out.  Clearly age doesn't always equate with maturity.  And I'm not talking about acting stupid, as I'm totally down with that.  I'm talking about wondering if some people ever really leave high school in the way they navigate through life.  It perplexes me.  Although the majority of my friendships, in the last 10 years anyway, were formed because of Zumba.  And I've said many many times... Zumba brings out the CRAZY like no other fitness format... mostly in a good way that I freakin' LOVE, but occasionally in a might-need-meds kind of way so maybe that's the problem?  LOL  I'm also trying to get better with my verbal communication skills.  Yes.... you CAN teach an old dog new tricks.   I lost a longtime friend this past year because I was friends with someone, who in her mind, had done something she didn't agree with.  Batshit crazy, if you ask me, & she who lives in glass houses shouldn't throw rocks.  I was subsequently "unfriended" on Facebook AND in real life due to association... along with Bob at the time.  We both just kinda went... huh???  She's one of my few non-gym friends & now in retrospect, I think she may have needed meds AND Zumba, just sayin'.  We keep it real.  To be honest, I'm still looking for the lessons in why friendships can fizzle, how other "friends" can take advantage of your trust, while also continuing to speak my own truth in the most gracious way possible.  However... I also find that God works in ways that truly have meaning if we just stay open to finding the lessons in all of it.  And I try to relate what can go on in mid-life with my teenage daughter because friendship woes clearly don't end in high school.  But my begging days did end at 19 with my boyfriend who broke up with me.  Made an ass out of myself then, so... what can I say except I'm probably not going to be begging for anyone else to keep me around since that didn't fare so well either.  LOL 
4. Speaking of my teenage daughter... we're planning a trip to Los Angeles this summer.  Just a few days ago she said, "We should get matching tattoos while we're in California."  I have to say it made me go... hmmm.  Neither of us have tats, nor does anyone in my immediate family... although my sister, mom & I have talked in the past about getting them with regard to my sister Kaysy.  She promptly went on to say that "there's this one place in LA, but the guy is famous & charges a minimum of $250 no matter how small it is."  I said, "yeah, I don't think so."  I'm intrigued though & think it's sweet she's been thinking about doing something like that with me. 
5. Also speaking of my daughter... she got her drivers license last summer.  So... uh yeah... new beginnings there for sure, as well as trusting & praying while she becomes more & more independent.  Hard to believe that in only a year & a half she'll be headed to college.  I'm planning on stalking her though, so don't worry, I'll be just fine.  But let's keep that on the down-low so she doesn't get suspicious.
6. Speaking of which, we toured Mizzou a few months ago since she's pretty sure that's where she wants to go.  Did I ever mention I went to Mizzou my freshman year?  Then I followed that boyfriend from above home at the end of the year & we broke up that summer.  Add it to my list of dumb moves I've made in my life, but it did mean I'd end up getting my degree at Missouri State University & I loved that school so much.  So... all's well that ends well.  Or ends with senseless begging, I mean.  Although actually, we're still friends to this day!
7. Read a thought-provoking & great self-help book in a recent book club... The Emotionally Healthy Woman.  Highly recommend it for anyone seeking to continually grow through life, not just go through life.  It's good stuff & I've been working hard to apply what I've learned to my everyday life.  Even better than the book were the conversations during book club.  Thankful for being lead to that room, that group of women & that book.  Nothing happens by accident.  Saying what I mean, meaning what I say & doing so without over-thinking everything... THIS is taking me into the new year.  And happily, the year has already started off with a bang.  Granted that was a champagne cork, but I'm hopeful for much light, love & grace ahead surrounded by my tribe of good vibes.  And a LOT of crazy Zumba people, of course!

 Hope your year is off to an amazing start as well!  Happy 2018!

"And I knew if I had my chance, that I could make those people dance, and maybe they'd be happy for awhile..."

 

In a few days... September 10... it will mark 6 years since I got licensed to teach Zumba. 

I know this because Zumba said they would be marking everyone's classes listed on Zumba as "unverified" unless they verified them.  I originally ignored their first email thinking I verify my website ALL. THE. TIME. by adding new photos... annnd since I've had a couple job/class changes in the past 9 months, I've kept that information updated as well. 

But... sure enough... I received a follow-up email saying my classes were marked as unverified.  Sheesh... ok, I'll "verify." 

 

Anyhoo... while looking at it... I've been reminded of just how much Zumba has changed my life and all the amazing people it has brought into it.  Seriously.  I know I say it a lot... but it truly is a blessing in my life simply because of all the friends.  Friends, I'm quite confident I may have never met, had it not been for Zumba. 

I'm so very thankful for all those who are so dedicated to showing up, putting in the work, having fun, and bringing their energy & smiles to my classes... even though we all have days when we may walk in not feeling like smiling.  Somehow I think we always leave happier than when we walked in though!  It's a group effort & "therapy" of the best kind!

 

And speaking of smiling... if I ever need to do that all I have to do is look at the pictures on there from the past 6 years of Zumba classes, Zumbathons, events, birthday parties... adults, kids, Girl Scouts, high school conditioning, middle school field trips & more.... it's like an online scrapbook. 

 

And if you've been part of it at all with me.... you're probably on there somewhere... ♥ deanaboston.zumba.com

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"I believe every single thing you see & hear is talking to you... "

 

I think it's safe to say we all have moments of looking for answers... seeking wisdom, guidance, strength... from somewhere. 

As I age though, I've learned that if I can get quiet enough & pay attention, there's much to be heard from the universe. 

What's easier to listen to are the things our minds believe to be true.  The saying... "Don't believe everything you think" is great in theory, but not always easy to apply in our daily life. 

 

I spent the weekend in my craft room doing a lot of scrapbooking.  Shocking, I know.  It's been a very long time.  But there is such therapy in it for me to get quiet & create.  I mean, it wasn't totally quiet, there was a marathon of the TV on in the background with it, but I digress.  It all requires a lot of attention to detail... placement, color, pattern, story-telling.  It's therapy for me in a way that only Zumba can match because both require me to get out of my own head & lost in something else.  

The creation of something on a page with little things that make me happy... rainbows, clouds, sunshine, flowers, hearts, butterflies, google eyes, thought bubbles.  So simple & so juvenile... yet even at midlife, takes me right back to the images I'd doodle in my youth ALL. THE. TIME.  In hindsight...  it's evident that those silly things are all over the pages in my scrapbooks over the years. 

 

Ironically at the end of the weekend, I saw this quote that made sense on what must've made me get out the paper & glue.  "Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart... where your hope lives.  You'll find your way again." 

Then.... this morning, I saw this video of Jim Carrey that a friend shared on her Facebook page.  I clicked on it because of what she typed in her status... "What you do in life chooses YOU....  & that great things can be born out of times when we struggle." 

Goodness.  The whole video spoke to me.  All of it.  Right down even to the part where he mentioned that being sent your room as a kid for punishment didn't work for him because it was his heaven.  And for me, it still is...

  

Jim Carrey: I Needed Color from SGG on Vimeo.

 

Not sure if anyone else needed any of this today, but I wanted to remember it all for myself along with one more thing that spoke to me...

 

 

And with that... it's Tuesday, which means it's time to hit the dance floor tonight for therapy of the best kind... XOXO

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"Get the vibe... it's gonna be lit tonight... no lie... "

 

It's been awhile since I've posted... I feel like I start every blog post that way in the last couple years... but I ran across this video by accident when it looped right after another video I saw on Facebook.  I found it to be very thought-provoking.  Ordinarily I would've clicked off the next video & scrolled on, but something about the title made me stop & watch...

 

 

Thoughts? 

I think there's a whole lot of truth to it.  People tend to show what they want you to see.  Maybe it's real... & maybe it's Maybelline.

Maybe their life really IS happy... & maybe it's an illusion created by the right shot & a cute smile.

Maybe they are out having great convo & memorable moments with others...& maybe they're together, but more engaged with people on the screen of their phone. 

 

Maybe some of life's best moments aren't even captured in photos... and no one ever sees them on social media. 

No check-ins, no status updates, no likes... just your own real life. 

 

And some of life's worst may have happened after a photo was posted.  Who knows?

 

 

I just returned from an amazing trip with my family.  My sister posted some highlights from each day, but there's probably 100 more photos that were taken, along with so many stories & memories.  And that doesn't even include the 70 professional shots we have as a gift for my parent's 50th wedding anniversary & my mom's 70th birthday.... which was the whole reason for the trip. 

Just my parents, my sister, my daughter & my niece... so much love.

I've had a lot of people ask about our vacation & tell me they enjoyed the photos... said it looked like we had fun.  And we did.  We really really did.  It was one of those trips where you don't want to leave because you're having so much fun & so many laughs together.  And well... the location wasn't half bad either!

 

But I've been on a lot of trips in my lifetime.  And while the opportunity to travel can be amazing... it really is WHO you're with that can make or break a trip.  And not all vacations leave you feeling such a deep sense of happiness & gratitude.  

So very thankful for the opportunity my parents gave us.  Maybe I'll eventually post more about it, since Bryn also captured quite a bit of video with her Go Pro camera & I'm still patiently waiting bugging her to edit & create something.  LOL 

 

 

And then there's this.  It came up in my Timehop the other day because I posted it a few years ago, but it speaks so much truth about what really is MOST important...

 

And with that... it's almost time for ZUMBA... my favorite time of day... 

"In the blink of an eye... everything can change... "

 

Well, I'm back from a fun week in Scottsdale.  It was a trip that was planned for Bryn's 16th birthday & she got to take her best friend, Ali who I call my 2nd daughter, along with us. 

We've been going to Scottsdale for about 13 years as we own time shares with the Westin there.  It's more of a home-away-from home & we do a lot of the same things every time we go. 

It's actually been a few years since I've been there & probably the last time I was there, we took Bryn's cousin, Sydney, with us & decided to try an ATV tour.  It was our first time on ATV's.  Bryn could at least say she'd driven the riding lawn mower many times prior to that, but at the ripe old age of my mid 40's... sadly (or happily rather) I couldn't even say I'd ever driven that.  I'm not the most outdoorsy girl around.  So we were all novices to say the least... me especially.  In hindsight, I'm glad it's where we started because it was apparently an easier course. 

Not knowing otherwise though, Bryn asked if we could do another one on this trip so Bob booked this tour at another place a little closer to where we were staying. 

We all suited up with helmets, ski masks for the intense dirt/dust we'd soon create, goggles and gloves. 

There was a family of 4 who was also on the tour with us, but had booked 2 small jeeps to use. 

The guide lead us through 2 practice courses to give us an idea of what we could expect on this 2-hour trail.  He asked how we all were doing.  I told him I was nervous after the first one & then after the 2nd practice run, when he kept reiterating that this course wasn't for beginners & was more of an intermediate trail... we ultimately decided it made more sense for me to be in a jeep, so Bob got off his ATV & drove that with me.  He would soon say he was glad he did that because even in that jeep... the course was still a bit stressful.   I only got a couple photos during the flatter parts of the course because it was rough terrain to say the least.

At about half-way through the 2-hour tour, we stopped for a break to drink some water and take off helmets for a few minutes.  Our guide also walked over into the brush & cut a piece of cactus that he said we could try.  Looks painful, but ummm ok. 

If you've never tried cactus out in the wild & why would you (unless of course you know that it's high in water content so it helps with dehydration)... the trick is to burn off the needles first. 

Looks like a pickle... texture of a melon... doesn't have much taste to it.  Nothing to write home about.  Even though technically, I guess I am.  LOL 

We got started back up again... guide in front, then Bryn, then Ali, then us & the 2 jeeps with the family behind us.  A short time later going up a steep incline, Ali fell over to the side with the ATV on top of her (apparently hit the embankment & a rock got under the tire or something).  We stopped.... I yelled "oh shit!!!!  Ali!!!!"  Thankfully she popped right back up and yelled "I'm ok!" & pushed her ATV back upright, but it was still stuck on the embankment.  So we waited until the guide must've noticed no one was following him & Bryn anymore & circled back to help get it unstuck.  SO thankful she was ok.  She has since complained her ankle feels like it's sprained & I don't know how it couldn't be with being twisted over like that, but so thankful nothing worse than that happened.

We got going again & all took another brief stop to rest for a few minutes & also to let the guide look at Ali's ATV & make sure everything was ok to continue driving.  I wish I had better pictures of what we experienced & how much dirt & dust was kicked up while driving.  At some points you could barely see in front of you, there was so much dirt in the air! 

For whatever reason though, I was suddenly overwhelmed with the feeling to pray.  And I kid you not... about a minute later Bryn's ATV flipped upside down & I couldn't see her anymore.  I screamed so loud.  We abruptly stopped & I didn't even open the jeep door... just literally leaped over the side of it & started running, not knowing what I'd find.  My legs were shaking so bad I thought they'd buckle underneath me. 

But as I got closer, Bryn pulled herself up from the embankment.  But for the grace of God, she somehow rolled out from under it when it flipped & was hanging down the embankment.  I don't know how she managed to walk away with just both knees of her jeans ripped, banged up knees & an arm... but it was God's protection of her without a doubt.

She thinks her tire got too close to the edge of the embankment & it flipped.  It all happened so fast, she didn't realize what happened, which is probably good because she likely let go right away. 

She could've lost her life.  She could've snapped her neck.  Not even a broken bone. 

Suffice it to say there's no pictures of this one & the guide had her drive his ATV the rest of the way back since her handle bars were bent. 

I didn't get a lot of sleep that night.  And I guess I'm writing about the whole thing to try to purge it from being replayed over & over like a bad dream in my head. 

Watching it happen right in front of us & not being able to do anything about it. 

Realizing I could've left Arizona without her, if even one thing gone differently than it had.

Realizing how something can happen literally in an instant & your life can be forever changed.

I managed to keep it all together that day, because going into the ugly cry in a helmet, goggles & ski mask would've been disastrous, but I have cried so much about this since then.

In fact, we both stood in the bathroom just the 2 of us the next morning crying & hugging each other.  It really was scary for her too.

I've thanked God so many times for His protection of her. 

She's the love of my life.  She's part of me, as I am her. 

 

She turns 16 on Friday.  We will be heading to take her drivers test that day, just as soon as I leave class, I'm sure.  I know I'm no different than any other parent in worrying, but this experience makes you realize how quickly things can happen.  And she'll be out on her own more & more with this upcoming chapter of independence. 

And the most you can do as a parent is pray.

 

Anyway... on a happier note... Bryn got a new Go Pro Action Camera right before we left for our trip.  She made a cute video of some of her week with her BFF.  A memorable week for both of them, I know...

 

Not sure what happened to the quality of the video when I transferred it to youtube, but you get the idea!  

XOXO

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Who packs your parachute?

 

First thing this morning, I thought I'd quickly scan through & delete over 300 new emails I'd somehow avoided in the past few days.  Most of them are easy to just delete without reading because they're spam or store/coupon emails.  Clearly I've been known to do a little online shopping.

But I came across this email forwarded from my sister. 

My friend had encouraged me to journal during this week away & maybe even get back to blogging.  Goodness knows, it's been awhile. 

With all that in mind... I immediately thought this was worth sharing since I have to admit it put tears in my eyes.  

I hope it makes you stop & think of all those who "safely prepare you to pass through life's challenges." 

I hope you take a moment to stop & reflect on what truly is important in life.  To simply live with gratitude above complaints.  To realize we all really are in this life together & to always find ways to help others.  

"No accomplishment of real value has ever been achieved by a human being working alone."  John Maxwell

 

I hope your vibe you're attracting for your tribe is a positive, inspiring & encouraging one.  

Have a great week!  XOXO

 

 

Captain Charlie Plumb flew 74 combat missions during the Vietnam war.

On his 75th and final mission, Charlie was shot down. After losing control of his plane, he ejected from the plane and spent the next 90 seconds slowly and safely floating down to earth. Immediately captured by the enemy, he spent the next 2,103 days as a prisoner of war.

For six years Charlie endured abuse and torture. He survived because of an unwavering devotion to returning home with honor, a deep sense of connectivity with his fellow prisoners of war, a desire to be reconnected with his family, an ever-present faith and a steadfast resolve to simply not give up.

But it was only decades after returning home, during a chance encounter, that he understood his primary cause of survival.

While enjoying a meal at a Kansas City diner, Charlie noticed a gentleman across the room looking at him. After several awkward glances, the gentleman stood, walked over to Charlie’s table, and asked if he served during Vietnam. Charlie verified that he had served, so the stranger asked Charlie if he had flown jets off the U.S.S. Kitty Hawk. Charlie nodded. Finally, the gentleman asked if he’d been shot down on his final mission.

Charlie asked the stranger how he knew all this information?

The man extended his hand, shook Charlie’s, pulled him close and said, “I packed your parachute.”

Charlie was overwhelmed with emotion.

He extended a grateful hand and shared that he’d said a lot of prayers of thanks for his nimble fingers over the years, but never thought he’d have the opportunity to express his gratitude in person.


My friends, as you step into this holiday, this week, this summer: Take pause to recognize all the teachers, parents, co-workers, mentors, friends and strangers who’ve ‘packed your parachute.’ The people who prepare you to safely pass through life’s challenges.

On this Memorial Day, as we celebrate the freedoms we enjoy, take pause to acknowledge the selfless love and ultimate sacrifice of those who made it possible.

In addition to barbeques, family parties and parades, perhaps the finest way to celebrate this Memorial Day is to actively seek opportunities to pack the parachutes for others.

This is your day. Live Inspired.

-John O'Leary

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"Bang my head against the wall... though I feel light headed... now I know I will not fall... I will rise above it all..."

 

 

Let each problem remind you to be thankful. For problems are possible only because your life has value, meaning, potential and effectiveness.

You won't solve your problems by fighting them, resenting them, or allowing them to overwhelm you. You'll solve the problems by engaging and utilizing the good and valuable aspects of your life.

No problem is a reason to feel sorry for yourself. On the contrary, every problem can prompt you to find the best within yourself.

Step up to the opportunity. The more difficult the problem, the more value you'll be able to create.

Problems often force you to address issues that have needed your attention for a long time. By working through the problem, you end up in a better position than before the problem arose.

Problems demand much of you, and therein lies great value. See the positive possibilities in each problem, and let them motivate you to give your best.

-Ralph Marston

 

 

"This is my big hello... 'cause I'm here & never letting go... "

 

I recently finished reading the book Hustle as part of a team of 7 coaches for The Lean Life Project. Our role as coaches was to each give a daily video on our assigned day per week to either inspire/encourage or sum up our reading each day of that book. 

Since I was the final coach on the final day of the 28-day project... I thought rather than do another video... where by the way I realized I like to use the word "um" a lot... I thought I'd sum up our month & our reading with a written post instead.

It was posted on our private Facebook group, but my very sweet & always-encouraging friend remembered this post from last month & reminded me to re-read my own words today. 

I thought I would share those words on here... as they could be the encouragement someone else needs to see...

 

“If you truly understood the greatness inside of you, if you truly saw in yourself what God sees in you, you would stop messing around with parties, drugs, TV, mindless activities, video games, foolishness, and anyone in your life who is intent on keeping you from becoming everything you were created to be.”

Very thought-provoking, right?

Add into that quote whatever it is that has a hold on YOU, and realize that it’s keeping you from becoming GREAT.

It could be junk food, lack of exercise, etc. We all have things we struggle with or use as a “crutch.” Sometimes what’s holding us back from success or greatness is the fear failure, negativity or drama in our life. Sometimes it’s too much social media and not enough realizing that your life is good WITHOUT comparison to other’s.

I’m so thankful I was part of this 28-day journey with you. I’m so thankful it was the reason this book came into my life because it made a big impact on me when I needed to hear it the most.

“Strength is only built through resistance. Greatness is only built through trials. Diamonds are only formed under pressure. Gold is only refined through fire.”

Carry on with your awesome selves… ♥
“Become so great they can’t ignore you.”

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"First... they were both on his payroll. And second... they hate each other..."

 

 

So... while scrolling through Facebook today, I came across a link to Missing Richard Simmons.

For the life of me, I can't even remember who posted it because once I clicked on it I was hooked the rest of the afternoon. 

 

I know.  Must get a life. 

 

Anyway.... I did a double-take before I clicked on it, thinking.... like... you mean... Richard Simmons the fitness guy... HE is missing?? 

And sure enough, yes.  THAT Richard Simmons.

I'm not that into current pop culture these days so who knew he'd been missing in action. 

I mean, I can't ever even say I was really a fan, but I do agree he was definitely part of 80's pop culture.

 

And no, he didn't inspire my current profession.  If anything my mom did.  She taught aerobics in the 80's... leg warmers & all... and is STILL teaching to this very day.

She was, and still is, a rock star & a force to be reckoned with.   She's amazing & I'm proud to be her daughter.

 

Moving on though.

There's a whole podcast now about him & how he's been missing since February 2014.

 

To be honest, I find it very fascinating & also a bit depressing. 

While he's made millions & has been famous for decades... at the end of the day he's just a regular guy.  A guy that for whatever reason, just went MIA. 

No contact with anyone whatsoever, even those to which he was closest.  No leaving his house... nothing.

 

And isn't it somewhat relatable that one's public persona isn't always who they are in private? 

Isn't it somewhat relatable... that during some of life's darkest circumstances, it would seem easier to just stay in bed or at home behind closed doors, rather than deal with it all? 

 

I'm fascinated by this podcast guy's story-telling of it all so far.  He was actually a good friend of Richard's. 

Although, maybe many can say they were good friend's of him, but who knows if that was truly reciprocated.   

 

So far there have only been 3 podcasts. 

 

Not sure how long this thing goes on.  Or if they eventually get Richard to acknowledge that he's at least alive & doing just fine. 

Although we all know what that acronym for FINE means...

Fucked up, Insecure, Neurotic & Emotional.

 

And who isn't.  At least sometimes anyway. 

 

But on another note... I'm looking forward to hanging out with my awesome friends tomorrow night!

 I say it over & over again, especially when someone comes to me with some deep stuff going on in their lives.

 

Zumba

is

my

therapy.

 

And I love that we can all leave our lives at the door and just dance.

Dancing is therapy.

Zumba is a format that provides an escape from reality. 

Because... let's face it, it's easy to pretend you're JLo on that dance floor when you're surrounded by such safety in knowing we're all dealing with something outside those studio doors.

Or sometimes, maybe we even feel like Richard Simmons, as crazy as it gets in that room!

 

At times, it can be a mountain to climb to get out of your house & into that gym/studio, but I think we ALL always leave feeling better than when we walked in. 

And I could not be more thankful for everyone that crazy class has brought into my life...

 

#extremelyblessed

XOXO

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"Don't sacrifice your peace trying to point out someone's true colors. Lack of character always reveals itself in the end... "

 

Ok so I'm about a third of the way into this book.  It's a quick read.  Short chapters, but fruitful in content.  I'm already highlighting things like crazy because so much of it is making me think ok... ok... I was supposed to read this, especially certain chapters. 

Divine guidance.

I mean, the timing... spot on.

 

As you may have read in a previous post, I'm taking part as one of the coaches again for the Lean Life Project.  This is the book we're reading during this 28-day journey.  If you missed the live call introducing myself & all the coaches, you can listen to the recorded playback here.

 

Before I put the book down for the night last night, I flipped to the end of the book & landed on a random page & wanted to share this quote because it truly resonates with everything I believe & am currently experiencing...

 

"Start to see your life as a story, and remember that every great story has plot twists, trials and hardships. 

We love stories where the unlikely hero overcomes adversity and chooses to act in spite of facing seemingly impossible odds. 

What is the worst thing that can happen if you approach it with a growth mindset? 

You gain invaluable experience; you learn and grow."

 

Which just goes back to the motto of where my heart was drawn last year... Bloom Fitness Studio. 

 

BLOOM where ever life plants you. 

Take the lesson from that seed and grow from it.

 

That's my advice to myself.

You, GROW, girl.

 

Take the advice if YOU need it right now too.

 

And I'm off to practice soon for the American Heart Association Zumbathon.  If you're local, you can join us for this annual event tomorrow 12:00-1:30 at the O'Fallon Family YMCA.  It's a $20 donation for a great cause!  It's always a blast & I can promise that we'll give you your money's worth in that 90 minutes!  Weart your RED & come join us!!

 

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"Sometimes it feels like... somebody's watching me... "

 

 

Happy Valentine's Day!  I left an early surprise on Bryn's desk the other day .  Her first response after her very excited THANK YOU was, "ummm did you have to pay a lot of money for those roses because I just saw a dozen roses at the grocery store for like $25??" 

I told her no.

But I am glad she's really starting to pay attention to how much things cost because girlfriend loves to shop a little too much. 

Just an FYI for those still searching, I found this dozen at Target over the weekend for $16 if you purchased them without the vase.  But yes... with a vase is $25.

 

On a side note we were chatting on Friday.  Her BFF asked if she wanted to spend the night, but since they'd already made plans for Saturday she evidently declined saying that she wanted to stay home & hang out with me because "she hadn't seen me in like 10 weeks."

Slight exaggeration.  Teenagers exaggerate often if you haven't already noticed.

I told her I appreciated that & also mentioned that I was getting better at letting her hang out more often with her friends.  She said, "Yeah... I have noticed that.  Why is that?"

I said, "Well, I'm glad you guys are happy mostly just hanging out at each other's houses rather than to be out at some crazy party.  And when you stay in contact with me & I know where you are, then I have no reason to worry about you."

She said, "Mom, no.  We don't even want to go to crazy parties." 

Which is nice to hear since I've been to my share of crazy parties... mostly those I've thrown as an adult.  LOL 

 

I said, "And I'm also really happy that you're not on Snapchat posting videos of yourself smoking from a bong." 

Because yes, I have literally seen video of Bryn's classmate & former friend from elementary school, doing just that. 

 

Bryn claims everyone at school thinks she's an idiot & can't stand her.  As a parent, I wonder do her parents not follow her on social media?  Do they know what's going on & don't know what to do? 

I mean, I'm not casting judgement, I know how easily it could be me in the situation & I'm so thankful it's not, but it really bothers me that someone can post videos of themselves doing this stuff at 15 without any consequence.  Or without anyone helping them when it's obvious they're screaming for attention.

 

And maybe these things have been going on for decades with or without the parent's knowledge of the situation, but there wasn't always the constant connection of social media. 

Or the need to let others know what your every move is. 

Or using social media to say look at me... validate me.

 

Suffice it to say, I pray a lot for my teenager.  

She's a good girl.  I'm really blessed.  She's certainly not perfect though.  Trust me... she can be a disrespectful ass sometimes like any typical teenager.  LOL

I try to be as open & honest with her as possible though about my life from birth to now... my experiences, my failures, my own issues with friends, etc... in hopes that she knows no one is perfect & situations don't start & end in high school, sometimes you find yourself dealing with the same things all over again even though you're pushing 50.  {insert eye roll}

 

But as all crazy Friday nights should go... we literally spent ours eating popcorn in bed while watching TV & then she fell asleep next to me. 

It was actually a perfect Friday night & I was really glad she wanted to stay home. 

 

I have to say though that in a couple years when she does leave & go off to college, I'm not sure what I'm going to do except possibly stalk her. 

There's Bryn's mom again, hiding outside in the bushes. 

I mean seriously though.  The thought of actually going 10 weeks without seeing her, if that could even happen, makes me tear up.  

 

She's going places though & I pray she's independent & successful... but most of all happy & doing something she truly loves. 

But I hold on to the hopes that the closeness we've always shared will last a lifetime, distance or not.

 

Although all I have to do is look at my own relationship with my parents & know all will be just fine.  Whether we see each other often or not, we are always close in thought.  Thank you, Mom & Dad... I am so very blessed...  

 

 

Ok then... it's Tuesday!  Time to put on some pink & red.  No better way to spend Valentine's Day than by dancing with friends! XOXO

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Lean in '17...

 

Interested in a leaner life... in body and/or mind? Call to listen in live tonight at 8:00pm!  I'm one of the coaches who will be part of this journey with you.

712-770-4010... code 598514

Recorded playback call is here.

 

What have you got to lose... besides maybe some extra weight & maybe some extra negativity in your life? 

 

 

Pretty sure we could all lose a little of that...

 

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Keepin' it REAL, yo...

 

 

Whyyyy has it taken me so long to jump on this hot mess express band wagon?  Glass of wine, some popcorn & I'm hooked for hours.  Just in the past few weeks I've caught a marathon of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.  I know... it's been on forever.  And sad but true, I admit to this new guilty pleasure.  I really don't watch TV & actually feel like I'm just wasting my money by paying for cable, but this show truly entertains me.  I've said many times in the past that there should be a Real Housewives of O'Fallon.  Doesn't matter how much or how little money you have... put a bunch of women together & it's either hilarious or downright dirty.  And I find it all highly amusing.

Here's just some of the epic quotes that are worth remembering & repeating.  And oh yes... I'll do my best to throw some of these into a conversation at some point... LOL

 

 

 

The first time I saw Yolanda she was rocking a side ponytail and pumps. I thought this bitch is fierce.

 

You're a slut pig.

 

I'm happy to see Adrienne. She's running around with a little bush between her legs. That little bush being Jacob Busch her new boyfriend.

 

Who cares whether Erika is wearing underwear or not?

 Who gives a shit? I'm not wearing panties.

 

My mom says as long as people are talking about you don't care what they're saying.

 

I have given my husband a lot of gifts.  But the greatest gift I've ever given him is our children.  Oh and a blow job in the car... I suppose we can say that.

 

Can we get a bottle of rosé out here? And a funnel.

 

I'm gonna give you a little piece of advice in front of everyone.  The more you talk about shit, the worse it gets.

 

I'm like a cockroach.  You can't get rid of me.

 

If you've got no undies on and you've got a short dress... cross your legs. 

 

Ken would have to give me a hall pass for George Clooney. It’s George bloody Clooney for God’s sake and he’s got a sense of humor which he would probably need when I took my clothes off.

 

We started off on the right foot and I'm happy about that, but my other foot will kick you in the ass if you come after my girl, Kyle, again.

 

It's expensive to be me, looking this good don't come for free... that's definitely true.

 

I went to put her (Dorit) name in my phone and it came out Doritos.

 

It's the Crotch Chronicles.

No it's Snatch Chat. 

 

This bitch is easy to deal with unlike some of the others in my life

 

How about a little Neosporin? Get a grip.

 

My hair is iconic, and don't you fucking forget it.

 

Where is my husband?

Oh I just saw him over there in the corner with his head up some woman's skirt.

 

Her closet... it could eat my closet for breakfast.

 

I don't throw wine glasses, I throw wine.

 

 You’re not wanted.
 Excuse me, neither are you. Ask your husband.

 

Now may be a good time to keep those big lips closed.

 

Dutch boys don't kiss and tell.
This one will. He'll squeal like a little piglet.

 

It's like I've walked into an insane asylum with these women in really nice shoes and purses.

 

You need to change your Depends because you're so full of shit.

 

Do you think you'd want to go to lunch tomorrow?
Why would I want to do that?

 

If anything goes wrong at the party, my plan is to be completed wasted so that I don't know what's happening because if you don't hear it and you don't see it then it didn't happen…like blackout sex.

 

She's had a few drinks and now she's going to the dark side.

 

I'll take pampering any way can get it. I'm a pamper whore.

 

Not only get in line with all the ladies... get in line with all the men.  Everyone wants Harry Hamlin.

 

When sisters collide I don't know what the fuck to do.

 

I just can not sit back and watch the bullshit train go by.

 

I don't know what the ladies are doing but I'm pretty sure it's not Andre.

 

I am sorry. I am not putting my mouth on a straw where Brandi's mouth has been. Would you?

 

I cannot have a breakdown right now.  I have too much to do. 

 

To loyalty and not talking shit behind each other's backs.

 

And cheers to that...

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"Do the hustle... "

 

 

There are a few things going on lately in the world of AdvoCare that may be of interest to you...

 

1. The Slim Down challenge.  Easy peasy... one simple product Slim taken twice daily.  It provides an appetite suppressant AND energy/metabolic enhancers... so yes, you'll get your caffeine fix!  2 flavors to choose from... Apple Pear and the brand new Lemonade flavor.  Oh... and you might want to join me in a class or 2 as well.  That always helps play a role in "slimming down."  Ahem...
2. Preferred Customer Discount.  Immediately save 20% on every online order.  The difference between this & the Distributor Discount is that the Preferred Customer Discount is only $19.95, but no selling/earning profits.  No minimum purchase required.  Great option for those of you who frequently order products!  You can, however, convert to a Distributor Discount at any time!  
3. The 24-Day Challenge.  The 24-Day Challenge isn't new, but there are currently still some freebies included with your order right now!  Limited time while supplies last. 
4. The Lean Life Project.  We're baaaack! In November I had the honor of being part of a team of coaches for a 28-day mind + body project.  In addition to 3 products for a leaner body... we also read the book Chop Wood, Carry Water for a leaner mind.  I can honestly say that there are still many things I read in that book that have stuck with me & I find myself purposefully changing the way I word things or think about things.  The mind really is very powerful.  It believes everything you think & say... good or bad.  Once again though, I'll be along for the ride as one of the coaches and beginning on February 6 (the day after the Super Bowl... a good time to reset goals) we'll be absorbing all the goodness of the next book by the same author... The Hustle. Plenty of time to get your products ordered.  In fact, one of my favorite new products is part of this project... AdvoGreens! The book is, of course, optional but I think you'll get more from the project if you're filling your mind with positivity & encouragement.  If you're interested in participating in the project &/or following along with the coaches daily videos, let me know & I'll add you to our private Facebook page.  I can honestly say I'm probably better at making stupid Dubsmash videos, but I'll be posting there weekly once again! 

 

 

It's almost February.  Now is the time when people tend to slowly sneak back into old comfort zones & habits.  It's been 1 month since New Year's Resolution time.  Are you still kicking ass & taking names OR could you use a little encouragement & more self-discipline?  I'm happy to help if you'd like it!

Ok then.... carry on with yo bad selves...

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"Baby I can see your halo... you know you're my saving grace... "

 

For lack of anything with any real substance to it... more randomness from life with a teenage mini-me. 

 

Text from Bryn at school today...

Bryn:  After school can we maybe go look at the Mod tent sale?

{no response}

Bryn:  Maddie said she got like 7 things for 30 bucks and they have a lot of spring stuff out so maybe we can look for our trips.

Me:  Ok.  But the trips are 6 months away.

Bryn:  Yep.  But the sales aren't.

Me:  Ok ok.  I know it's the last sale ever in the universe.  I'll go pick some money from my tree...

Bryn:  {sends back several laughing emojis}

 

 

One more random story from our day today... 

Last Friday night, my friend noticed a mole on Bryn she thought looked unusual & suggested we have it checked.  I was able to get her in for an appointment with the dermatologist this morning.  I have to say, Bryn was pretty nervous all weekend & this morning was no exception.  While I did speak calmly to her about it & reassured her that I thought everything would be fine... her nerves made me nervous too.  She kept referring to possibly having skin cancer & quite honestly her nerves were making me nauseated at the possibility of that outcome.  I never lead onto that with her, but no one ever wants to hear the C word. 

So we were escorted back into the office by the nurse.  She asked the reason for our visit, said the doctor would be in shortly... and "oh, by the way, she'll have a physician's assistant shadowing her today." 

The doctor came in & said hello... and then introduced her assistant Kaysy to us.  (I'm sure she spelled it differently than my sister, but Bryn looked at me and we both smiled.)

We both knew that when "Kaysy" (a pretty uncommon name) walked into the room that everything was going to be ok.

And it was.  Totally normal mole. 

 

Now rewind back a couple months to Halloween... 

I had just taught my Friday morning Zumba class.  All was fine the entire class & we were taking photos in our costumes after class in the lobby.  The longer I stood there though, the more uncomfortable I became.  I started feeling a chest pain around my heart area that was so intense, I finally said to a friend... "I need to go.  I need to sit down or something because I feel horrible." 

I got in the car & called Bryn.  Told her I didn't feel very good, had horrible chest pain that was making me feel nauseated by that point.  Was also in my neck & jaw area.  Asked that she just come outside & drive to get some lunch.

Now that fact that I asked her to drive was the first clue that I didn't feel good.

Because we all know that being in the passenger seat with her could cause heart failure at times! 

By the time she got to the car though, I said... "I don't know what's wrong with me, but maybe I need to go to the ER."

She would later say that it was the first time I didn't say anything to her about her driving the entire way there. 

I told her I was too busy googling chest pain to pay attention.  LOL

They admitted me within minutes to a room, I had an EKG, blood tests, etc. 

Finally when the doctor came in a couple hours later to discuss results, she brought her physician's assistant with her... & said, "This is my assistant, Kaysy."  (Again, I'm sure it was spelled differently than my sister, but again... not a common name you hear all the time.)

Bryn & I looked at each other & smiled... knowing everything was going to be ok.

And it was. Tests were inconclusive, but definitely showed no signs of a heart attack.

And I've since completed a stress test & echo cardiogram as a follow-up to that ER visit, so who the heck knows if it was stress or what.  Craziness though.

 

 

As we left the dermatologist office today, both shaking our heads still about "Kaysy," I said... I'm not sure if that was really another physician's assistant or just an angel on earth letting us know all would be ok... but either way... it's a great reminder that my sister is still very much a part of our lives. 

I'm still smiling just thinking about it... ♥

 

And one more thing that makes me smile is this look back on 2016 in my fitness world.  I posted this on Facebook last week, but it's worth saving here too because it makes me smile.  It was an amazing year with so many amazing people that I get the honor to share it all with every week during Zumba & Body Pump. 

The year was full of wonderful opportunities & fun memories. 

Good times at a school twice a month, where even a couple friends would not only attend my Zumba class there... but would then also attend my Body Pump class at another studio a couple hours later.  Now THAT is discipline... not to mention DEDICATION.   Loved it.

I helped lead a couple Zumbathons, which is ALWAYS an honor especially when it's for a great cause. 

I helped with an amazing opportunity to be part of the Francesca Maria event one of the studios hosted.   Definitely something I'll not soon forget! 

A fun road trip to Des Moines for an instructor JAM. 

A few special classes for kids.

And I'm quite thankful for one door opening last year, even though another door closed.  Bittersweet to say the least. 

It is truly awesome to be part of something brand new though... and to be entrusted to help with someone's dream & vision of helping others become the best versions of themselves. 

My "work" life was truly a blessing in my life this past year and EVERY year.  I've been at this fitness adventure for 6 years in February.  My heart is FULL... ♥

 

 

And speaking of Zumba... it's Tuesday, so I'll be off to dance this evening!  XOXO

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"Some people try but they can't find the magic... others get down on their knees and they pray..."

 

It's been forever & a day since I last blogged.  And to be perfectly honest, I'd decided that one of my goals for 2017 was to be more consistent with it once again, along with more scrapbooking.  Both are therapeutic & feed my soul in a way that only Zumba equals in comparison.

Although thank goodness for Zumba, because scrapbooking is a totally sedentary activity & I would bust out of my pants if all I did was sit around with paper & glue all day. 

So anyway, with my good intentions for the start of the year, I had even started typing up a post recapping my 2016... with everything that happened with my job, all the places I was fortunate enough to travel to, etc. 

But there the half-typed post sits, unfinished.  And let's don't even mention that not one one scrapbook page has even been started. 

I did, however, just buy a new scrapbooking collection kit titled "She Blooms" because I was like.... "Are you kitten me right meow?  Perfection!"

And then Bryn shot the wind right out of my sails & said, "Face it, Mom.  You're not going to do any scrapbooking & you know it." 

That kid.  

And NOW I have to prove her wrong. 

 

 

 

But anyway, just like with exercise & goals for better health... I say start where you are, not where you want to be.  And today I read something in the Daily Motivator email that I thought was worth sharing. 

 

 

The person you become, the life you live, the results you get are a direct result of the way you spend your time. How do you intend to spend your time today?

Every person alive will have the same number of hours in this day. Yet the value obtained in those hours will vary remarkably.

You have time, and with it, opportunity. Decide right now to put it to its highest use.

As you travel through the day, remind yourself that each moment makes a difference. The way you live it determines what that difference will be.

You know that the difference between speeding forward and standing still is made in each moment. As the moments arrive, keep reminding yourself of their opportunity.

A little extra effort, each time you get the chance, leads to a lot of extra richness in your life. The day has arrived, and you know what to do.

 

-Ralph Marston

 

So there you have it. 

 

How are you spending your time so far this year? 

Have you already fallen back into old comfort zones & habits? 

Are you keeping up with new goals?

Are you doing things that feed your soul?

Are you allowing people or situations to deplete you in mind & body? 

Are you waiting for the right time to get started? 

Are you allowing the weather to make choices for you? 

Are you "shining" in your best light possible? 

 

I hope this year is full of amazing things for you.  I hope you remember that whether you're a mom, you work outside the house, you're a student, or retired... we all have the same number of hours in each day.  Simply taking 30 minutes out of 24 hours for yourself, is not selfish.  We all have much more to give, when we start with our own self-care.

Like the old saying goes... if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. 

 

So shine on, beautiful girls, shine on...  ♥

 

 

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The Lean Life Project...

 

 

I'm excited to be one of the coaches involved in this upcoming Lean Life Project!  If you've been thinking about getting started on a healthier path in your life, this is a great starting point to develop that daily discipline. 

It doesn't take a New Year's resolution to do it.  It just takes your willingness to make small changes.  Small changes can lead to BIG results.

And sometimes it's simply a matter of changing your mind-set.  Or maybe you're just sick & tired of feeling sick & tired. 

 

This is a 28-day program involving some foundational products, that will help you develop the discipline to carry with you beyond that in your daily life... a stronger YOU living a more lean life!

 

Join myself &  7 very inspiring coaches for a dial-in playback conference call... where you can listen in as we introduce the upcoming project, what's involved & who WE are.  We all bring different personalities & backgrounds to inspire you on your path to good health.

(605) 562-3099 CODE 1032364

 

This Lean Life Project does NOT involve a cleanse & is not a 24-Day Challenge as you may or may not have done in the past.  It's simply an opportunity to focus on creating a leaner body & mind.  And I say that because it usually takes getting the "junk" we carry around in our mind under control, so our body can follow with healthier choices.  

 

There will be a private Facebook page for anyone interested in learning more about this project and what you'll need to prep for it. We will also be coaching along the way with daily inspiration... health tips &/or mind-set tips. 

 

I'd LOVE for you to join us if you're interested in heading into the holidays a little leaner, meaner & ready to kick booty!

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Yo ho... yo HO...

 

 

At the ripe old age of 48 and with my 30th high school reunion occurring recently... I have a few thoughts on age & maturity. 

 

I've had moments of looking around wondering if perhaps I've just been swimming in a fish bowl like Dory ("just keep swimming") and maybe I'm really still IN high school?

 

But then I remember... no... I gave birth 15 years ago & now I have a high school student daughter, so I can't possibly still be in high school.

 

With age doesn't necessarily mean maturity.  Or less senseless drama.  With age, DOES mean your cheer skirt no longer fits.  Ahem.

I tell this to Bryn often... because I don't want her to think that when she leaves high school, the drama magically ends with it.   You just have to try not to associate yourself with it as much as possible.

 

Personally I choose to ignore senselessness.  And I think silence speaks much louder than words ever can.  

I got along with everyone in high school... & hung out with all "groups" of people.   I was one of those dorks who was involved with as much as possible... a cheerleader, involved in clubs, playing the flute in marching band, a couple tight lifelong friends... annnnnd my boyfriend was the lead singer in a band & would eventually have longer hair than me.  We probably didn't look like we matched up together, but that's how I typically roll... even still.  Oh.... you don't think I should hang with this person? Let me hang with them even MORE then!

I think I still get along with everyone.  And still have a lot of good friends, with a small circle of tight ones.  Still a dork as well... what can I say?

 

I've often said I have the sense of humor of a 12-yr old boy.  If we've met, you've probably already figured this out. 

For years, my mom would wonder why we all had to talk about farts or something inappropriate at the dinner table.  By this point she's basically just caved & laughs because it really never ends no matter how old we all get.

 

But I figure if some can act as if they're still in high school, I should certainly be able to act like I'm still in middle school even if I am pushing 50.  I honestly don't remember any drama in those years so I'm takin' it all the way back to the old skool. 

 

 

One of the many things in life that can leave me laughing for days... is making stupid videos or photos... especially if props or costumes are involved. 

 

Bryn has made many videos & done many stupid things with me in the past, but the other night told me she'd rather clean her room and her bathroom AND make her bed than make a Dubsmash video with me.  

SO RUDE.

And coincidentally, none of the above happened either.  Hmmm...

 

So if your friend, who totally gets this about you & not only encourages it but enables it by saying... hey, we should dress up like pirates & make a video for a mutual friend's birthday... you run with it AND have all the apps to make it work.  I mean... it just so happens that I can get creative, yo.

I mean... arrrrrrr.

And there is a back story to the pirate theme because it had come up in convo after a Fiesta-themed impromptu shindig after class we had a few months earlier.  I mean who doesn't love an impromptu theme when you've just finished sweating your ass off in class? 

Or wait, that was just me as usual.  The other 3 looked nice. 

I totally prefer to rock a sombrero with a Zumba shirt.  Give me chips + guacamole and I'm up for anything.

 

 

Anyway... I'm usually pretty good at keeping a straight face to do this kind of stuff, but my mustache kept falling off so it was a rocky start but then we got our act together.

Cheap Dollar Store mustache.  What did I expect anyway? 

 

 

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And that kind of got me on a Dubsmash roll, so then there's this. 

And I'd just like to forewarn you that if you're easily offended, you shouldn't watch.  Just go right back to your Facebook feed & tune into political posts. 

 

This one is heavy on Kardashian madness. 

I mean that show is like a trainwreck that you can't seem to pull away from watching. 

Not that I watch them regularly but I have found myself laying in bed, doing a marathon of shows I can't seem to turn off. 

 

But again... it's not me.  It's them.  Their words. 

I only choose to possibly offend people on my blog.  Not on Facebook. 

And we all know I'm easily amused.

 

 

Ok then... speaking of costumes, props & all things stupid... it's almost Halloween so you should probably dress up for my classes if you're local!

Friday will be especially FUN... with Zumba in the morning & then even more fun that evening!  Details to follow soon!

 

And well.... we should probably do something fun on Sunday & Monday as well!   YAY!!

 

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"Sweet wonderful you... you make me happy with the things you do... "

 

 

 

Read the following recently & wanted to share it.  I think it's so important to remember all this at any age, but especially those growing up in this age of "keeping up with Joneses" on social media.  It can be easy to have feelings of inadequacy in comparing ourselves to others . 

News flash... people don't typically share the bad stuff... they share the good stuff.  They stuff they want you to see or know.

It's mostly "smoke & mirrors."  Pictures posted are the good ones, not necessarily the "real" ones. 

Filters cover lines & wrinkles.  Makeup covers imperfections. 

Personalities can't be covered though.  What you're putting into this world, can't be faked... or if it is... it will be shown eventually. 

Kindness & love shown for others makes someone beautiful... not makeup & hairspray. 

It's easier to realize with age & wisdom... that what defines us isn't what we readily think when we look in the mirror or compare ourselves to others.  It's so much more than that.

I really love this... 

 

You are not your age

Nor the size of the clothes you wear

You are not a weight

Or the color of your hair

You are not your name

Or the dimples in your cheeks

You are all the books you read

All the words you speak

You are your croaky morning voice

And the smiles you try to hide

You're the sweetness in your laughter

And every tear you've cried

You're the songs you sing so loudly

When you know you're all alone

You're the places you've been to

And the one that you call home

You're the things you believe in

And the people that you love

You're the photos in your bedroom

And the future you dream of

You're made of so much beauty

But it seems that you forgot

When you decided that you were defined

By all the things you're not

"While I was feeling such a wreck, I thought of losing my mind... "

 

Wellll.... hellloooo there.  Long time, no post.

 

Question:  Do you have writer's block, Deana? 

Me:  Oh no, I have plenty to say.  I probably just shouldn't say all of it.  

 

In other news though... much has been going on, as always, since I last blogged. 

• Much Zumba & Body Pump.  Even a road-trip with a bestie to do more Zumba.  Because can one ever really do too much Zumba?  I think not.
• Bryn is still rockin' it in volleyball.  I LOVE to watch that girl play. 
• I went to Cabo with my parents & my sister last month... just the 4 of us.  It was amazing.  I should blog about that too.  Sheesh, I'm behind.
• Threw an 80's party for a good friend who turned 50.  Oh and 50 is the new 30, by the way, since I'm inching closer to it. 
• And lots more... like lunches & good times after classes with friends.  Thank you God for friends.  They are such a huge blessing in my life & what keeps me sane & laughing.  

 

I came across this list the other day about things we can control & thought I'd share.  There really is very little in life we actually CAN control.  Like the following, for instance...

 

1. Your beliefs
2. Your attitude
3. Your thoughts
4. Your perspective
5. How honest you are
6. Who your friends are
7. What books you read
8. How often you exercise
9. The type of food you eat
10. How many risks you take
11. How you interpret situations
12. How kind you are to others
13. How kind you are to yourself
14. How often you say "I love you"
15. How often you say "thank you"
16. How you express your feelings
17. Whether or not you ask for help
18. How often you practice gratitude
19. How many times you smile today
20. The amount of effort you put forth
21. How you spend/invest your money
22. How much time you spend worrying
23. How often you think about your past
24. Whether or not you judge other people
25. Whether or not you try again after a setback
26. How much you appreciate the things you have

 

And then there's THIS.  These talented young girls with voices who gave me goose bumps.  And the sweetest song ever about friends.  And mine really are the BEST...

 

Happy Hump Day, or as I like to call it... PUMP DAY since I'm off to teach Body Pump this morning & then Zumba tonight!  Good times...

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"There is nothing that can make me feel this way... since you came around you brighten every day... "

 

 

Well... I'm still on a "ZUMBA HIGH" from a fantastic weekend & the opportunity to be part of the Francesca Maria LOVE Tour 2016! I have to say this was definitely a highlight of my Zumba career over the past 5 years. 

I really wasn't sure what to expect going into the weekend other than I knew I needed to memorize choreography for 5 of her songs.

I have to say I was a little stressed about learning all of it.  And rather than be totally organized, I crammed a lot in my head in the week leading up to the event!  Rolling at the last minute, as usual!  

 

We all got together on Friday night to rehearse with Francesca... but her flight ended up being delayed to due bad weather coming out of New York so we rehearsed without her. 

I cannot say enough how grateful I am to know & work alongside each & every one of those instructors.  They are such inspiring, hard-working, well-prepared professionals!  Good times & lots of laughs all weekend! 

 

The next morning we met with Francesca.  She watched us run through all 5 songs.  She mentioned there would be some interaction between us & everyone else... how she wanted us to end on each song... and also corrected some of our footwork.  It was awesome.  She wanted us to be tight on our moves & also suggested we have a max of 6 of us on stage for each song.  Had no idea we'd be doing some singing with her prior to those songs (and then during, of course!), but that was pretty cool too! 

Seriously felt like I was part of a mini rock concert! 

Bucket list of being a backup dancer at a concert... I say close enough!  I'm checking it off my list! LOL

 

She lead a Zumba workshop prior to the Master Class and we all hung out in a back room discussing who was on stage for each song + more rehearsing too.  Can never be too prepared & of course we wanted to make her look good! 

 

Wish we could've had more people in attendance, but it was an amazing experience & I've heard so much great feedback from everyone who was there! 

 

And there was NO rest for the wicked!  The class was a solid 90-minutes.  Those 5 songs were just a small portion of this event.  Crazy fun, high energy Zumba class!!  So thankful to have been part of all of it!! 

 

 

Pretty sure I burned enough calories to inhale a BOAT-LOAD of chips + guacamole afterward.  

And maybe a few cocktails too... ahem.

 

 

Memorable weekend from beginning to end... #luckygirl

 

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"Rumors are usually nothing more than what jealous people wished were true of you... "

 

Looking forward to a fun weekend ahead involving the opportunity to dance on stage along with some of my awesome fellow Zumba instructors & Francesca Maria leading the way!

 

It will be a fun 90-minute Zumba Master Class like no other & a great workout too!! 

I hope to see lots of friends there dancing with us!  Please join us if you can!!

 

If you'd like to see the choreography we'll be doing while Francesca Maria is performing, you can check out her youtube videos below!

Some of the videos even have a break-down of the choreography at the beginning before they put the whole routine to music. 

 

I've been doing Popee in class for the last several weeks & also did Dale Dale a few weeks ago with another instructor friend who will be dancing that day alongside me!  Good times!

 

Hope to see you on Saturday at The Fitness Fuzion, where I teach Zumba & BodyPump several days a week!

Huge dance floor, disco lights & loud music... it's a pretty amazing place to get yo' dance on!  I LOVE IT!!

 

 

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"I can feel your eyes on me... keep on watchin'... "

 

Saw this image the other day & thought... EXACTLY.  We all walk around thinking everyone else has their lives together & that we're the only one who hasn't figured it all out... and the truth is NO ONE really has their life perfectly "TOGETHER."

And if they say everything is perfect, they're likely not telling the whole truth. 

 

In fact I think we'd all probably be surprised on any given day to be a fly on the wall in someone's everyday life behind closed doors. 

Who they are outside of the public eye... outside of other's judgements & opinions of who they are. 

 

Maybe parts of our lives are perfectly together.  Maybe our job is great?  But it's likely that while one area of life flourishes... another area is likely lacking attention & isn't quite "perfect."

 

So while yes, I do have this blog that's been around for over 8 years... and I have shared a lot of myself personally on here, I really don't put my whole self & life out there.   I figure if there's ever a Real Housewives of O'Fallon reality show & I'm on it getting paid to make an ass of myself... then yes, I'll put my whole life out there. 

Until then, it's just bits & pieces. 

Mostly Zumba pieces... which is crazy enough.  LOL

 

But probably my most "real" self blog post was posted several months ago and I barely typed one word.  It was almost all images that depict some of the craziness in my brain... things I found funny, sarcastic, in bad taste, etc... but that's ME on any given day.  Those that know me well can vouch for that.  That post can be found here & it's amusing enough to me that I'm repeating it.  

And I had a horrendous migraine that day I posted it, so it made me feel better in a twisted kind of way. 

Strangely enough I had included a quote from Prince lyrics on there & shortly after that passed away & everyone was quoting him.  Sad.

 

And speaking of my brain on any given day... most days it's filled with music & choreography. 

And I just added 2 new songs in Zumba this week but I'm getting ready to add one more tomorrow.    

3 is a little much, but what the heck.

I did have some weeks in the past couple months where I didn't add anything new at all though, so I guess I'm making up for lost time. 

Or maybe it was lost brain cells. 

Or lack of inspiration.

Or time. 

Or let's face it, other things in life took precedence over Zumba lately.

I know, right.  Who knew it was possible??

 

Anywayyyyyy... I am OBSESSED with this song.  Just heard it yesterday & it's going on the playlist tomorrow.  Although I'm still reworking a couple moves that seemed awesome in my head while car-dancing, but in reality... not so much. 

 Just need to figure out what I'm removing now... LOL

 

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Pure, authentic life & love are what matter...

 

Saw this first thing in my email this morning & it really spoke to my heart today so I thought I'd share. 

Enjoy your weekend.  Make some fun memories that will leave you smiling by Monday... XOXO

 

 

Quiet your thoughts now, take a slow, deep breath and feel life itself.

Just feel, without the need to label, the essence that is you.

Allow yourself to feel love for all you love.

Allow your vision of life at its best to fill your awareness.

Stay here a moment, and remind yourself, this is what's important.

Pure, authentic life and love are what matter.

Nothing can take the best of you away from you. Through pain, loss, achievement, joy, ups and downs, you still can love all that you love.

In any situation, you can give of yourself to life.

You can always make a difference, you can always matter, you can always love.

Remind yourself of the good, unique power that is your own life.

Remind yourself now to point that power in a worthy, meaningful direction.

 

-Ralph Marston

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"All eyes on me in the center of the ring just like a circus... "

 

 
In the process of writing blog posts, I sometimes get side-tracked & unintentionally change directions from where I started.  Sometimes I just change the entire post altogether & other times it results in an additional post like today. 

Yesterday I mentioned I should talk about what to expect if you decide to become an instructor. 

I have quite a few friends that have recently decided to get certified to teach fitness classes.  In fact, there's a Zumba training this weekend.  So excited for those attending & LOVE that they've been inspired to do it.  It is an AWESOME job and a FUN format to teach!  

 

Here's some of my thoughts + opinions on teaching based on my own experience over the past 5 years.  Other instructors have their own opinions & experiences.  Take what you need to help guide you in your own journey while primarily listening to your own gut. 

This post isn't intended to bore you if this isn't your path, so forewarning to stop now & don't waste your time reading.

On the flip side, this post also isn't intended to make anyone feel bad either.

It is MY experience alone over the past 5 years.  And even though I've been teaching for 5 years, it all still applies to ME.  I still look at every single class as a new one, still sub as much as I can & still very much LOVE what I do.  It is a HUGE blessing in my life & I have loved every minute of it!

1. This isn't a big money-making job, but it is rewarding in more ways than money can buy.  There are a lot of fees associated with whatever format you teach... to that particular company, your own liability insurance is likely required depending where you teach, continuing education requirements, CPR certifications, etc.   At first your goal will likely be to just break even with what you're making & what you're paying.  I also looked at it like... hey... I'm being paid to workout & maybe that also involves a free gym membership too.  In fact I still think of it that way because I'd be working out every day anyway!  But eventually, if you teach enough you'll make a profit too. 
2. Grow thick skin as fast as possible. I'm not sure one ever totally gets to the point of not caring what anyone thinks, but it can save you a few tears if you realize you have to keep pressing on in spite of negative comments to your face or behind your back.  And it will happen.  So don't quit & don't let it get the best of you.  For whatever reason, I can apparently hear 50 nice comments, but that 1 hateful comment will leave me crushed for days.  Well let's be honest... I can hold a grudge with the best of 'em, so it will last longer than days for me.  But seriously... if you live for public acceptance, you'll die with their rejection.   Press on.  
3. Sub.  Sub.  Sub.  Sub your ass off.  Even if you just taught 2 classes that morning & someone asks you to sub that night... do it if your body can handle it & you have the time to spare.  Every single time you get in front of a class, you introduce yourself to a new set of people who in all likelihood may have never taken your class had you not snuck in & caught them off-guard.  And then oopsie daisy.... what do you know... they liked you!  5 years into this teaching gig, I still sub as much as I can.  People stay stuck in a rut with their "favorite instructor."  And the majority of people aren't cool with trying someone new.  Sub as often as you can... even if it's for someone who makes an announcement that they won't be there causing most not to attend class.  Be on fire & on your game for those few that do show up.  Teaching is a process.  It takes a lot of time, sweat & tears to build a decent size class.
4. Did I mention subbing? That can also help you get your foot in the door before you get a regular class.  If people like you, I can assure you they'll be telling the owner to bring you back again.
5. Realize that you'll spend more time working outside of class than in class.  This assumes you want to keep your playlist fresh and not just do the same thing week in & week out.  I, personally, try to add at least 1 new song per week.  There are weeks this doesn't happen because my brain cells are maxed out with choreography for a different format or... I'm just being lazy & uninspired... but for the most part I work hard to keep songs moving in & out of the playlist.  But I'll also hold onto some songs longer that make people want to jump on stage with me.  Because well... the stage is way more fun with others than alone!
6. Your good friends will likely not take your classes. Re-read #3.  The majority of people aren't cool with trying someone new.  If they already work-out, they likely already have a favorite instructor.  If they don't work-out, you've got that hill to climb on motivating them as well.  Re-read #2.  Grow thick skin because the people who will cause tears are likely friends.  Press on & let it all fuel your fire.  You WILL grow from this journey you're on.  It will make you stronger & not just physically.  I promise!!  Be ready to meet new people & make many many new friends!  The bottom line is, friends may or may not come to your class, but you want to build your class outside of who you already know.   Hopefully people like you & bring their friends next time too!
7. Leave your personal life at the door. Everyone has problems.  No one needs to hear yours or see anything but a smile on your face.  For most people, that hour of class is therapy.  It's an hour of personal time that they can leave the outside world & escape their thoughts & just dance, or pump iron, or whatever class it is.  You are there to lead & to create that atmosphere of therapy.  Give people something to look forward to.  It's actually my therapy to be there, too.  Life at the door.... lights.... camera... action.  SMILE!  MAKE EYE CONTACT WITH EVERYONE IN THAT ROOM!  You don't have to be so serious.  In fact it's better if you're not!
8. Expect the unexpected & know that the show must go on. No matter what happens... keep going.  If you forget your moves, have something up your sleeve you know you'll go into even though the rest of the class is looking at you like you're crazy.  For me, it's usually a single/single/double move in Zumba.  Don't just stand there whatever you do.  Thankfully my classes realized I really am crazy years ago & they just shake their head & laugh at me.  Embarrassing things will happen too.  My shirt came untied & fell down while I was on stage once... thank goodness I had on a bra top.  Everyone laughed & I just yelled "the show must go on!" and we kept going until I got to a point in the choreography where I could pull my shirt up again.  I've also fallen on my ass in the middle of class.  Jumped up & we all carried on like nothing happened.  Seriously.  After awhile, people will know you well enough that they expect something stupid to happen.  Make them laugh.  Laugh at yourself.  Just have to go with it, whatever happens.  My biggest worry is that someday I'll split my pants on stage during a squat, but knock on wood that hasn't happened yet.  You sure as hell better wave your arms at me though if it does!  Watching me fall on my ass & actually having to look at my ass  are 2 totally different things.  This could also explain why I like to tie a shirt around my waist, just in case!  LOL
9. Over-prepare. Even though mistakes will likely sometimes happen... I am almost always over-prepared.  I practice & learn all the time.  My pre-class ritual is to listen to the first minute or so of every song on my playlist in my car on the way to class.  It's usually very loud too, so my apologies to the cars next to me at stoplights.  Not only does it get me motivated, it gives me a visual in my head of the choreography I'm about to do.  I don't want to mess up in front of people.  Yes it will happen from time to time, but if you're over-prepared it likely won't. 
10. Don't just walk into class & walk out. Introduce yourself.  Talk to people.  Thank them for being there.  Sounds like common sense, but not every instructor does this.  And why not??? You're there to help people stay motivated to workout.  They may want help outside of class with eating habits.  Stay connected.  A lot of my time outside of class isn't only spent working on new choreography, it's also spent staying connected with friends via social media or private messaging.  You like hearing nice feedback about your class, right?  Guess what!  The people coming to your classes like to hear nice feedback about their efforts too!  You're there for THEM, not to compete with other instructors or get your ego stroked.   And if you are worried about getting your ego stroked, you've totally lost sight of the reason you should be there in the first place & this might not be the right job for you.  Don't just be a good dancer on stage.  Performing is easy.  Being an engaging instructor takes a little more work.  
11. Market yourself & promote the gyms/studios where you teach.  Yes, you'll probably lose a few friends on social media that are sick of your fitness posts.  Realllly... Zumba again?  That chick needs to get a life. Hey... things could be worse though.  At least I'm not posting daily selfies.  Or life sucks & everyone's out to get me.  Or yo... I'm boozing it up again.  Not that there's anything wrong with any of that... I'm just sticking with some positivity, folks, what can I say.
12. Take other instructor's classes. Until you get to the point where you're teaching so much that you really don't have time or can't handle the extra wear + tear on your body, it really does reignite your passion & give you inspiration for your own classes when you get out of your own head for awhile & let someone else lead.  I always always leave someone else's class inspired.  It helps get me out of a rut sometimes with coming up with new choreography too.  Win-win.
13. Keep it simple, sweetie. Your cueing is SO important.  I had that light bulb moment about a year into teaching when the words... "choreograph your cueing into every song you do" registered in my brain.  My cueing pretty much stays the same & is part of my choreography, whether it's a brand new song or I've been doing it for months.  There's someone in that room that may have never been there before.  And hopefully when they take your class for the first time they'll tell you that you were easy to follow.  Honestly that means MORE to me than anything else.  If you can't follow me, you can't get your heart-rate up... and then you're leaving my class without a decent workout.  I do not want that to happen!  Keep your moves easy to follow.  Keep your cueing on point.  You're not there to perform.  You're there to lead people in following your moves.    
14. Listen to your gut. We all have an inner voice.  A lot of the time we ignore what it says to us.  Try to tune out the opinions of others & listen to what your gut is telling you to do or not to do.  You don't have to take on every opportunity that presents itself, nor should you doubt your abilities either.  Only YOU know what's right/wrong for YOU.
15. I am MORE than happy to help if you want it.  Getting on stage here & there, helps ease stage fright.  Team-teaching helps ease you into leading an entire class.  Practicing outside of class over & over again helps.  Use any of my songs/choreography you'd like... I started my first classes that way too.  Been there, done that with this journey you're about to embark on... and am happy to help you if you want it!!  Big hugs, high fives & much love.  YOU GOT THIS. 

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