(diva)logues

"That's just the way it is... "

 

 

Happy Groundhog Day & Happy Birthday to my awesome dad!  Since he's been forwarding The Daily Motivator by Ralph Marston to us, literally daily for years, I thought I'd share a good message he sent yesterday.   

My favorite part is at the end... Let go of your need to control what is beyond you and embrace your power to control what is within you.  Good stuff! 

XOXO

 

The way it is

By Ralph Marston

Let this day be the way it is. Let your life, your challenges, your hopes, dreams and frustrations be the way they are.

Let everything that is, be just the way it is. Then let yourself discover the good things you can do with it all.

You cannot successfully deny reality. What you can do, though, is acknowledge and greatly improve upon it.

Wishing for things to be different than they are is an empty wish. Working to make things the best they can be is a much more beneficial use of your time and energy.

Avoid wasting even a few moments of your life on anger, blame, or regret. Rise to a higher level, acknowledge the truth of what is, and make good come from it.

Let go of your need to control what is beyond you and embrace your power to control what is within you. Let life be just as it is, and let yourself do great things with it all.

 

"Light it up... "

 

In this day & age of COVID, Zoom-this, Zoom-that and all things virtual... being technologically-savvy is a must. 

 

Saving your eyes with a pair of Blue Blockers is a definite must.  I have a couple pairs now. 

And I don't know about you, but I feel like my eyes have become worse over the past year of virtual everything & more time spent online than normal. 

 

Blue Blocker glasses help to reduce eye strain, headaches, and too much "blue" light, which at night especially can keep you wide awake if you're not cutting off your online usage at least an hour before bedtime. 

And well... to be honest, I'm REALLY bad about that. 

 

I love these from Abella Eyewear & you can get 30% off your purchase of any eye wear on their site with my code: 

 

 

Good lighting is another must, in my opinion.  This applies to any kind of photo or video. 

Whether you're staging something to sell or just selling yourself with a selife... lighting can make or break the shot. 

And I don't know about you, but I don't think the use of Zoom calls is going away anytime soon.

 

Since I'm doing a lot of selling these days on Poshmark, I feel as if it's important to stage the clothing for your closet in decent lighting like a retailer would use.  I started out with a simple ring light, which I still love because it also doubles as a tripod for your phone, but I have since added more lighting to my arsenal. 

 

Not gonna lie though... good lighting matters for your photos, videos and even your Zoom calls!

Here's an example of a photo without anything other than overhead ceiling lighting in the room, compared to the other with the addition of an inexpensive studio box light.  Neither photo used a flash or any editing whatsoever.  I just stood in the same spot within seconds of each other with the extra light on & off...

You can of course achieve a similar result with good outdoor  lighting  during the daylight hours too, however if you're working in an office that's not always possible. 

And if you're staging and photographing content to sell, as I also do, I don't always have time to do that during the day.  But "daylight hours" can be achieved at night with additional lighting. 

You can find the Soft Box Lighting Kit here.

And the Ring Light with Phone Tripod here.
 

Both are very inexpensive and the box light even comes in a set of TWO... although I feel like 1 light is enough for the small room I use to photograph my stuff. 

 

Kinda thinking of doing a tips & tricks video soon for selling on Poshmark.  I've been doing it for almost a year now... February 23rd to be exact was the first date I made a sale last year. 

Since that date though, I've made a little over $1100 just selling my old clothes, shoes and handbags. 

 

There's money to be made out there in virtual land, you just gotta get started and do a little homework on what works! 

 

How about you?  Do you wear Blue Blockers or have additional lighting that you use at your home or office? 

Curious to know your thoughts if you're online quite a bit for work or personal use!

XOXO

"She's bloomin' with grace... "

 

There's a LOT of good that happened during 2020.  Overall it was a great year. 

And even great moments during "lock-down," although not gonna lie... I was also kinda losing my mind during that time too.  And also running out of toilet paper.  Thank you God for all the virtual classes we were able to keep doing and all the friends who joined us... it kept me SANE. 

Matter of opinion I guess... since some might argue I'm not sane.  LOL

 

One of the highlights of that time though, was absolutely this crazy night of co-hosting a "live" HSN-style shopping night at Bloom with my always hilarious friend, Leslie.  We had no rehearsal and no idea what we were going to do except show up at the studio and wing-it. 

But if anyone can talk nonsense for almost an hour, it's the 2 of us. 

Makes me laugh all over again to rewatch it, so I thought I should upload it to YouTube before I deleted it from my phone. 

 

So if you're bored & missed it the first time... or need a good laugh... here ya go.

 

And I'd totally do this again in. a. heart. beat. 

Minus the hot flashes I was having, that is.

Good times I tell ya... good times! 

XOXO

Every good boy does fine...

 

So here's a funny memory to lighten to the mood on social media these days.  And since it just came up in my Timehop from 8 years ago... I thought I'd share a little laugh at my own expense.  Well... along with the expense of a lot of other parents who apparently were willing to make a fool out of themselves, just like myself.  Those are my people... most definitely my people.

 

Little known fact about me, unless we went to school together, I played the flute from 5th-12th grade.  Marching band, symphonic band... I did it all because marching band specifically didn't happen at the same time as my cheering season so I was able to make it work. 

I loved it.  Can't call me a band dork.  I don't take offense. 

And by the way... our marching band even performed at Busch Stadium one year.  We had fun.

One time the marching band director told the other people in my section... "try to march more like Deana with high knees."

 

I mean listen... it's probably where some of my Zumba skills were born, but who knows.  I get into it, whatever I'm doing.  Shocking, I know.

Also, I'm pretty sure everyone gave me a dirty look and I just shook my head.  I really didn't need to be called out, Mr Charpiot, but whatever.  LOL

 

And before you ask where did you go to high school? I went to Lindbergh.  Which is apparently making news these days for not a good reason.

 

Anyway....

 

Unlike riding a bike, I'm not sure I could pick up my old flute and play it again.  I mean, I know I could play it, I'm just not sure I could remember which notes were which, let alone try to read music that was no big deal for me during 8 years of my life. 

 

But fast forward to Bryn's middle school years when she decided to play the clarinet. 

Well... she also played the recorder for a year in elementary school, but we'll skip right past that nonsense. 

 

So her 6th grade music teacher told all the kids that if their parent never played their particular instrument, they could teach us to play it (based on what they've learned).  And THEN... at the end of the semester we could all perform together in a Parent Concert.

Ok yes...  that sounds like the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.  I'm in.

 

Let me just tell you right now, aside from the fact that reading sheet music is not a talent I retained over the years, playing a reed instrument is NOT the same as playing a woodwind instrument. 

Nope... not even kinda close. 

Of course in my mind when I agreed to all of this I totally thought... I'm a former musician, this is going to be easy.

 

At one point during our regular evening practice sessions after weeks of trying, where I could barely get a squeak out of the clarinet let alone an actual note.... Bryn started crying and yelling at me in frustration.

Bryn:  EGBDF, Mom!!!! 

Me:  Yes... every good boy does fine... I remember that much, BrynE, but I'm sorry, I just don't remember how to read music.  And I am TRYING to do this but blowing into a flute is not the same as a clarinet!

Bryn:  You're never going to get it!

Me:  Is this how your teacher teaches you?  Geez. 

 

All I'm gonna say is I eventually managed to play the entire song we were all learning for the concert.  It wasn't pretty, mind you, but I did it. 

 

So allow me to share our outstanding performance where we totally rocked Hot Cross Buns.

And yes, that's me right up front in my high heels.  At the end you can also see me immediately turn my head to the dad next to me where I said, "Oh my God... we actually sounded a lot better than I thought we would!"  We both laughed.  Along with the rest of the audience.  LOL

 

 

Can you even imagine this happening in 2020?  Where's the masks?  I know, I know... you're all cringing at the thought.

 

Good times, I tell ya!  And I'd totally do it again!

XOXO

"I like to move it, move it... "

I've had some time recently to reflect on 2020.  

Have you thought much about it at a deeper level & reflected on the past almost 12 months as we get ready to head into a new year?

I know many hold out hope that COVID will magically go away & that 2021 will bring back the old "normal." 

 

But with that said, I've done some reflecting, mainly with regard to health... because well... that's what I do.  Being as healthy as I can & trying to practice what I preach is part of my everyday life. 

The following post is simply my own personal thoughts & opinions.  You don't have to agree with me.  Or with anything else you read or hear.  Just like changing the radio station when you don't like the song that's playing... easy peasy. 

 

Without sounding political, because that's not the point here... I'd like to say that if you're "living" YOUR life right now based on everything you hear or read, you're doing yourself a disservice. 

If this year, now more than ever, you haven't decided to be YOUR OWN ADVOCATE FOR YOUR HEALTH... you are doing yourself a disservice. 

Your heath is in YOUR hands.  Plain & simple.  And there are ways you can take charge of your body's ability to defend itself against illness.  There are ways you can take charge of your WELLNESS, now & forevermore.   

 

And before you argue that people have died this year, yes... I know.  COVID, specifically, can be fatal... although I also know there's a 99% survival rate.  People die every year for all kinds of reasons.  In fact, my own sister died suddenly of Meningitis... something that is NOT typically fatal, but is contracted in close group settings like dorms or small offices... the environment in which she worked... leaving behind an 8-month old baby.

I get it.

But continuing on.

 

Cancer, diabetes, cardiovascular disease (ie. heart disease and stroke) and lung disease are leading causes of preventable death and disability. As you age, the risks of these health problems increase. Reducing the risk of these 4 chronic diseases is within your control though, as is avoiding viruses this year or ANY year.  And the healthier you are if you contract a virus, the more quickly you may fight it off. 

It's not rocket science.  But here are some great ways to avoid illness:

1. Good nutrition.  Junk in... junk out.  You are what you eat.  It can be confusing to figure out what's healthy & what's not, but a good rule of thumb is lots of leafy greens & lean proteins... reduce your intake of sugar, starches, fats.  There are resources to provide help if you want it.  I've got a pretty good handle on it if you ask. 
2. Exercise.  Move your body.  I'd suggest 5 times a week, but some kind of movement every day is optimal.  Many of us are forced to be sedentary because of jobs that might require sitting on our butts at a computer all day, so it's up to us to be disciplined about scheduling time to workout.  YOU NEED TO BE A PRIORITY ON YOUR DAILY TO-DO LIST.  If you can't afford a gym membership, go take a run or a walk outside.  Group exercise classes are a LOT more fun though in my opinion, and worth every penny you'll pay, because enjoying your workout means you'll be more likely to stick with it!
3. Rest.  One of the best features of our body is that it can repair itself if given the opportunity.  Adequate AND restful sleep is so necessary to recharge, regenerate & repair.  And not just sleep.  If you're an athlete, taking "rest days" is every bit as important as your workouts.
4. Stop smoking.  And NO, vaping isn't ok either.  Second-hand smoke is just as bad if you're living with a smoker & may cause you to have an increased risk of lung cancer and respiratory problems, even if you've never smoked yourself.  Just quit.  Or ask a doctor for help if you can't do it on your own.  Your lungs can repair & go back to a nonsmoker status after 10 years of quitting. 
5. Limit your intake of alcohol.  Not gonna lie.  I drop the ball here sometimes & I'm sure many of us went through at least part of this year with more alcohol than normal.  But it does put you at risk for many kinds of cancer if you're not drinking in moderation, which for women is only 1 drink per day.  Men is 2.  They get all the fun.  LOL
6. Reduce stress.  It's hard on your body & your mind.  People under large amounts of stress can become tired, sick, and unable to concentrate or think clearly. Sometimes, they even suffer mental breakdowns. Prolonged stress can really weaken the body.  Living in FEAR of a virus is the ULTIMATE stress. 
7. Manage a healthy weight.  If you're eating right & exercising, this is likely not an issue.  However, being overweight/obese can put you at significant risk for many health problems & can lessen your ability to fight stuff off.  The general standard for your optimal weight is determined by the Body Mass Index. 
8. Remain social.  Humans are naturally social beings and because of that, it is important to have relationships with family, friends or co-workers.  Isolation from others and loneliness can create more stress, lead to depression and leave the body more vulnerable to illness and disease.
9. Wash your hands.  I mean duh?  Why did this become such a thing this year as if it's shocking new info?  Gross.  Do it all the time.  Every year.  Especially after you use the restroom.  Mama raised a fool if you just learned the benefits of washing your hands this year.  SMH.

 

Can you still get the FLU even if you're already doing all those things... of course.  Can you still get COVID even if you're already doing all those things... of course.  Is that list the answer to all things for perfect health... of course NOT.  But you are greatly minimizing your risk of contracting a virus, preventing illness or chronic disease IF you take your health more seriously & control these "controllables."

 

 

All in all this has been a great year for me personally for so many reasons.  It has even been a great year for me professionally because it forced me to level up, learn to Zoom, and adapt to dancing, yelling and trying to inspire to a computer monitor while in an empty room that used to inhabit other people all doing the same along with me.  All that energy & awesomeness others bring to the room was missing.  Man... was it missing. 

There were days I had to force myself to get up and not stay under the covers in the dark.  The most depressed I felt this year was during "quarantine" back in March/April/May when we weren't supposed to leave our house.  And toilet paper was nowhere to be found.  Honestly, it makes me cry just thinking about it all again. 

 

What kept me going, though, was being with Bryn & forcing her to go take walks with me outside.  (She secretly loved it. LOL) Hopefully my crazy self kept her going too, because she had just been moved home without much warning in the middle of her freshman year at Mizzou & was dealing with her own sadness. 

What kept me going, was heading into the studio... and either having another instructor to dance alongside, jump into their HIGH class, or seeing friend's faces on the other side of the screen.  I literally almost cried every time I'd see everyone pop into the Zoom page... it made me so happy.

What kept me going, was having a community of support... friends, family, loved ones... and NOT completely isolating myself regardless of what we were being told to do. 

What kept me going, was having a boss to remind us that we were "essential."

What kept me going, was knowing that we ALL, regardless of our job or our place in this world, have an impact on someone else... that we are ALL essential.

 

 

Right, wrong, or indifferent... I've tried to continue LIVING my life, to continue to allow God to use me to inspire others, but especially to keep my body MOVING for my own health & sanity.  Movement is MEDICINE. 

And in MY opinion... lack of movement, lack of contact from loved ones/friends/acquaintances... and "living" in fear... will kill all of us in mind, body or spirit before a virus ever can.

Our bodies are designed to move.  WE are designed to be social.

I know there are people who likely disagree greatly with me on all of this and that's ok.

 

If 2020 hasn't impacted you in a more profound way than wearing a mask, though, I hope the new year causes some reflection on how much power you have over your own life, health and well-being, regardless of what's going on in the world around us. 

F.E.A.R... you can either forget everything and run... or face everything and rise.  I know how I’m heading into 2021. 

And on that note... it's time to get off my butt & move it! 

XOXO

"Gotta blame it on my juice, baby... "

 

So I bought a juicer  last month and not gonna lie... I'm kind of obsessed with it.  I've posted a couple videos on TikTok and even did a live video on Instagram, where I attempted my first homemade juice ever with a "liver cleanse" recipe.  I wouldn't say that it was the best tasting juice I've made so far, but it was healthy and did serve a purpose.  And yes... I drank the whole thing if you happened to be watching & wondering once the video ended.  LOL

Here's one of my favs though... recipe AND well, the song too... because who doesn't love ELO? 

I mean... if you're a youngster, maybe not... but I grew up with them on repeat.  Especially Mr Blue Sky...

I didn't spend a ton of money on it, because I wasn't sure how I was going to like it or if I'd actually use it regularly... but I've used it quite a bit so far & I love it!  Minus all the clean-up... which takes just as long as the preparation!

Hamilton Beach Juicer Machine, Big Mouth 3” Feed Chute, Centrifugal, Easy to Clean, BPA Free, 800W, (67601A), Black

 

 

I've also been using my blender lately too.  If you're a pumpkin lover... here's a yummy recipe!

1 C. milk (I used coconut/almond milk)

1/4 C. pumpkin

1 scoop vanilla protein powder

1/2 banana

handful of ice

1/2 t. cinnamon

garnish with sprinkle of nutmeg

 

This isn't necessarily a meal-replacement shake, just more of an in between meals kind of snack. 

Protein-rich snacks can help to avoid your blood sugar levels from taking a nose-dive, which can also cause you to overeat at your next meal. 

We call that being HANGRY... & ain't nobody got time for that.

 

If you're looking for a great meal-replacement shake though,  Advocare makes a couple I love... Advogreens Meal Replacement Shake... chocolate chip cookie dough & salted caramel flavors, both of which are amazing.  I also love that they're plant-based protein shakes, with 26 vitamins & minerals. 

I mean, let's face it, most of us aren't getting all the vitamins we need daily.  Or greens, for that matter.  Although, I'm pretty sure I'm giving it a good college try with the amount of spinach I ingest every day.  Some might joke that it's excessive.  LOL 

 

Maybe it's the change in the seasons or the state of the world in 2020 that's making me really want to take charge of my own health & surroundings, but I'm on kick lately!

 

In other related news... Bryn was just home for the night & we even made juice for breakfast this morning. 

 

How about you?  Have you used a juicer? 

Let me know in the comments if you have any great recipes!

XOXO

"Control... never gonna stop... control... to get what I want... "

 

Well here we go... heading into the holiday season!

The election just happened, as we all await the results. 

Annnd... it's still 2020. 

 

Gotta make the best of all of it though!

 

One of my favorite quotes is this... "The two things in life you are in total control over are your attitude and your effort."

And since a lot of what's going on in the world is beyond our control... what are some of the things you CAN do to feel as if you're not out of control this year?  Or any year for that matter!

 

One thing you can do is to clean up your environment.  This can include your home, your news feed, your circle of influence... minimize the "clutter."

When your environment around you is in disarray, what's within you is usually the same. 

 

 

Personally, I'm on a kick right now of organizing... or should I say reorganizing... every bit of this house. 

I'm throwing away, giving away and selling.

I've talked before about how I started selling my old clothes, shoes & handbags on Poshmark and other similar platforms.  It's a bit of work to get your stuff photographed & listed, but I've made almost $700 since the end of February on stuff that I was no longer using. 

I find it oddly satisfying to package stuff up & take it the Post Office.  Strange, I know. 

I even had cute little stickers made with my blog logo that go on each package I send. 

Who knows if anyone really cares when they get it, but it makes me happy...

If you're not already on there & sign up, you can use my closet name DIVALOGUES to save $10.

 

 

Aside from regularly cleaning out my closet though, even my pantry and my spice cabinet haven't gone untouched.    And well... I kinda like opening those doors now because organized stuff makes me happy. 

Are you seeing the trend here?  Ending up with things that make you happy & clutter-free.  That's the goal.

 

If you follow me on Instagram, I recently shared my reorganized spice cabinet on my Story.   Bought a couple Lazy Susan spinners to help organize some of the bottles...

Homeries Lazy Susan Turntable (9 Inch) - Single Round Rotating Kitchen Spice Organizer for Cabinets, Pantry, Bathroom, Refrigerator - Non-Skid Surface & Rimmed Edge - Pack Of 2

 

My favorite part though is that I was able to get rid of most of my vitamin & supplement bottles & put all the capsules into this little gem I found on Amazon!  Not sure where or how you organize your vitamins & supplements, but this little organizer can help reduce a lot of bottles taking up space in your cabinet or drawer...

Monster Supplement, Medication Pill Dispenser with Compartment Labels - Extra Large Pill Container Handles Almost Any Supplement - Includes Premium Lifetime Subscription to Medisafe App

 

 

And since I was already in the kitchen knee-deep in trash & giveaways... I figured why not make the pantry a little prettier too?  LOL 

I mean no one cares what it looks like except for me, but whatever.  Bryn might appreciate it too since she's a little organizer after my own heart, but aside from her, it's not like people walk into my house & check out the pantry.  

Although I guess if they're hungry, they might? I mean... there's also tequila in there too... 

 

I still want to do something different with the bottom 2 shelves & find a different solution for the canned goods & bottles, but for now it will have to do!

I've mixed & matched some old canister jars with new ones.  The plastic containers with a the white lids were found at the dollar store, but for most of the food I'm more comfortable knowing it's in a food-safe container with a tight seal. 

These glass canister jars are perfect.  I used a variety of sizes, but here's a good set of 2 (I bought 4):

Klikel Square Glass Kitchen Storage Canister Jars - Crystal Clear Food Storage Jars With Clear Lid And Bail & Trigger Hermetic Seal - 48oz, (set of 2)

I used a white chalk marker to write directly onto the glass container.  It also writes on my plastic containers too!

Easily wipes off with a paper towel if you make a mistake or change up the contents.

American Crafts 369907 Erasable White, 2 pack Chalk Marker

 

 

 

Of course EXERCISE is another great thing you can do for your sanity right now, or ANY year! 

 

Log off.

Move dat ass.

Go take a walk.

This beautiful weather won't last forever.

And you know darn well, you'll be complaining about the snow & ice soon enough. 

 

You got this!

We got this!

 

Attitude & effort.  That's where your control is. 

 

God Bless America!

 

XOXO

Grief...

 

So... I went to bed thinking about this last night & woke up thinking about this, so I'm compelled to write.

 

Someone I only "know" through social media passed away suddenly at 40 yesterday.  I was shocked & I cried.  In reading his wife's posts and IG stories, I'm not only reminded about Bryn & I watching his silly videos 9 years ago, but also of my own anger I had to sit with for many years when my sister passed away suddenly. 

I'm also reminded that life is SHORT.  So find what makes happy, find your passion, find what lights you up.  Give your energy to those that matter... those you love & who love you back.  Ignore the nonsense, the negativity, the drama.  Make each day count because there are no guarantees & none of us know how long we have here.  But who you are, how you make people feel and the impact you have on others is your legacy, whether you realize it now or not. 

 

Back story...

 

As some of you already know... I used to be heavily involved in the world of scrapbooking, card-making, paper-crafting.

It's the sole reason my blog came to fruition  in 2008... to be a vehicle for more exposure in that world, to have a place to showcase my work, to market for the companies I'd someday represent and even to share part of myself, my life, my family.

And it worked.  I would eventually have companies send tons & tons of free product to me in exchange for my design work. 

I would eventually have my stuff published in magazines & books & product catalogues. 

It took me a couple years of hard work & determination, but I did it.  And the first time I made it into Creating Keepsakes Magazine in February 2011, I about lost my mind.  Not even kinda kidding.  I'd been in Scrapbook Trends & other books by that point, but CK was the mecca of all publications at the time as far as I was concerned.  And I think I shared in that opinion with most people.

 

 

All of this wasn't a huge money-maker for me, but I did get paid for work that got published, and the magazines would also pay me when they published my work. 

I LOVED it.  All of it.

Blogging, writing, designing, scrapbooking, taking photos, taking photos of my work, card-making, marketing products, submitting my stuff for publication, the social media forums... all the FREE products I received... seems like forever ago & also just like yesterday. 

People that followed me over the years watched Bryn grow up too.  Her face was on most of the pages that were published, so technically she can say she's been published in magazines & books too.  LOL

 

I've been scrapbooking for as long as I can remember in my life, with old scrapbooks from my youth that I've found made out of construction paper & yarn.   Photos, memories, stories, pretty paper, glue, stickers... ugh... why am I not still obsessed with it?  I love it so much.

Oh yeah... Zumba stole my heart, time, energy, passion... and then my other passion took a backseat. 

Coincidentally though... BOTH passions have helped me with my grief over the years.  Both require focus on other things or other people... and both allow me to escape my own thoughts and place my attention elsewhere.  Both started as hobbies, but they drive me in different ways and save my sanity. 

 

And just like with any other industry, the paper crafting world has people everyone knows because of the work they do or because of the companies they're associated with or simply because of social media forums where you might get to chatting and strike up friendships based on your common interest. 

I met some of the people I knew only online, in person at convention or even on family trips believe it or not, but whether actually meeting people or not, you knew who was who.

Elizabeth Kartchner, aka. Dear Lizzy, has been a huge influence in that industry forever.  And just like anyone else who blogs, or in her case... creates a product line sold in stores, you get to know their families through them over the years. 

 

I stopped following the majority of the people I followed back then when I stopped regularly blogging & designing because I was following everyone typically through their blogs. 

Facebook & Instagram started taking over the world of social media, with blogging in general losing much of it's steam for most people.  

And in my own life, fitness started to play a bigger role. 

And unless I made a point to follow people through FB or IG, I lost touch with their lives over the years.

But Liz's husband, Collin, became well-known in the industry along with her.  At one point he made a handful of videos poking fun at the scrapbooking industry.  To most people the things he says in these videos, the names (I ♥ Cathy Z.) & picture of Lisa Bearnson on the wall... would make no sense.  But to those of us at the time, we were living it.  And it was laugh out loud funny to me.  And also to Bryn who watched with me. 

Fast forward to 2 years ago when Bryn had her wisdom teeth pulled.

If you remember I posted a video on my blog of her still high on drugs on the way home from the appointment.  In the video she randomly blurted out, "Hi... I'm Cleetus McDuffy... get some..."

I mean... WHAT?!  You hadn't seen that video in like 9 years??! I laughed so hard at her that day!  Crazy kid. 

 

 

All this back story though to say that he passed away suddenly yesterday.  He went on to do more than just be his wife's sidekick... and by the way, those two seemed inseparable & quite a team.  4 kids later & in the past couple years he was a big advocate for kids with regard to social media & Smart phones.  Cause of death was unknown & natural causes stated.  Someone said brain aneurysm today, but either way he was young. 

Liz's Instagram Story yesterday immediately brought back my own feelings of anger that I experienced when my sister passed away suddenly.  And it's hard to imagine this anger unless you lose someone suddenly that you were very close to.  I remember this feeling so vividly.  It's painfully relatable & takes me right back to what has healed in me over the years.  But it took awhile, especially when well-meaning people say the wrong things to you.  Or want you to be ok when you're not. And all you can do is keep getting out of bed every day. 

And by the way, they're Mormon.  Her last post referencing how she'd only said the F word once in her life when she was 16...

 

They didn't know us, but we know them.  Rest in peace, Collin.

Sending prayers of strength for the Kartchner family.  We are so very sorry for your loss.  ♥

 

And maybe I'll pick up some paper, glue & photos today just for old times sake...

XOXO

Change nothing... and nothing changes...

photo cred: AD images

 

There are many reasons I prefer Instagram to Facebook, but one of the main reasons is that I have more control of the content I'm seeing.  Unlike Facebook where I have mostly family, friends and acquaintances that I'm connected with... and a little too much political banter... on Instagram I'm following a lot of accounts that inspire me or have content that makes me laugh or think. 

My own Instagram content is different than what I generally post on Facebook... especially on my "story" where I regularly post stuff that might inspire, motivate or make you laugh.  Although my sense of humor is somewhat twisted so if you're also into sarcasm, I'm less likely to offend you.  In my defense though... I only have about 1/4 of the number of followers that I do on Facebook... so there's less to offend.  LOL

 

Matthew Hussey is someone I follow.  I found him when he was interviewed by Ed Mylett who I was already following on Instagram.  I've shared content from both of them on here before.  And while Matthew is an author & gives content specific to dating advice... it's not why I decided to follow him.  Not that I don't need that kind of advice, because Lord knows any advice is welcome.  LOL  However, a lot of what he posts makes sense about human interaction of any kind... how our own upbringing or past experiences shape who we are as adults and all the baggage we have to unpack with that if we want healthy experiences and communication with others. 

 

Today his post was titled:  What are you doing to live YOUR life today?

and the following was in the caption...

 

- Doing 10 sit-ups is better than scrolling photos of the perfect, glistening bodies of people who workout for a living.

- A hike you do on a shitty path near your house is more nutritious than watching somebody else walk around the Italian Riviera on Instagram.

- Attempting to cook one new meal is more valuable than watching an entire season of a cooking show.

- Inviting 2 friends you don’t see too often for a catch-up is more valuable than watching videos of other people hanging out with their entourage

- Talking to one new person is more valuable than scrolling through pictures of a seemingly perfect Instagram couple #couplegoals

- Making 2 sales calls today is more valuable than 1000 #MillionaireMindset quotes with Ferraris and expensive watches in the background.

It’s fine to take moments to enjoy these things as inspiration, entertainment, or even escapism. But don’t spend so much time in escapism that you forget about your real life. These things do nothing to build you. They are hollow, empty-calorie substitutes for living our actual life.

Inhabit your own life. Make it bigger, richer, more nutritional - even if only by inches each day. Who cares if it feels like nothing in comparison to what others have, are doing, are achieving. It’s REAL.

In the end the real moments you experience in your own life will be worth far more to you than the time you spent being a spectator for the peaks of everybody else’s existence.

 

 

In my own case... I was having a bad day last week & randomly got a last minute invite for happy hour with a few girls. 

My mind went in 2 different directions... decline, stay home, likely scroll through social media, watch TV & sulk about canceled plans OR just say yes and go. 

Honestly I strongly considered declining, but made myself reply yes & go take a shower.  Not only was I glad I went though, it ended up being one of the most fun nights I've had in a long time.  It was last minute.  I was supposed to have other plans.  And had I not said yes, I would've never known I was going to miss as much fun as I had, which by the way also took me out of my own "sulking" and into experiencing life... my own good life.

 

How often do you find yourself "escaping" your real life or procrastinating getting things accomplished?  Are you Netflix & chilling more than you're actually chilling with friends or family?  Are you counting how many "likes" you have on social media more than you're concerned with being likeable and engaged with the people in your own home... the people who supposedly matter the most?  Do you have more screen time than exercise time? 

His post makes a lot of sense. 

But reading a post and actually applying it by changing habits & behaviors is two different things. 

 

If you're looking to make changes in your life... start with some of your daily habits that are "time wasters" and replace that wasted time with something that could benefit you in a more positive way.  Here's some ideas that can take between 5 minutes to 1 hour of your time...

 

Okie dokie then... close up your phone or laptop & go take a walk.  I'm getting ready to do the same.  It's a beautiful day!

XOXO

Choose grace for others and for yourself...

 

 

A longtime friend of mine recently shared this on Facebook & I love it.  Such words of wisdom, not only for my own "kid," but for ANYONE, no matter your age. 

One thing is for sure... my kid & I have always kept each other laughing. 

And for that, I am beyond grateful.

 

 

 

Ten things I want my kids to know:

 

1. Happiness is a lot of work. You can’t be lazy or entitled to achieve it.

 

2. You will make mistakes and they will only define you if you give it that kind of power. If the lesson is learned, the mistake is worth it. It’s your choice whether or not it wins. You are not a prisoner to your past and you are allowed to grow.

 

3. The world owes you nothing. It does not care who you are, where you come from or what you think you deserve. Everything you achieve will have to come from your own dedication to what you love. It will not be handed to you easily.

 

4. People do not get to tell you who you are. Make peace with your own soul and give no one the power to tell you that you’re something you’re not. Know who you are and be okay when others do not understand you.

 

5. Work hard. Never go into anything with half your heart. Respect is earned by how you did the job and not the title by your name.

 

6. Show up for your people. No matter what has happened, show up. That’s what people will remember about you in the end of all of this.

 

7. Choose grace for others and for yourself. No one gets it right. You won’t either. Bitterness is the anchor to the soul but grace sets you free.

 

8. Have fun. Be adventurous. None of us are getting out of this alive so make the time you have count with the people who actually matter.

 

9. Laugh in the good times and the bad. Your sense of humor and your ability to take a punch will set a strong foundation of stability.

 

10. Love God! He’s the most consistent thing you’ll ever have!

 

 

 

 

 

And speaking of my kid... I finally just got to see her yesterday after almost 2 months.

So yep... it was a pretty great day.

 

 

 

Enjoy the rest of your Sunday & have a great week! 

XOXO

"We're gonna make it through this hand-in-hand..."

 

 

I've mentioned him on here before, but if you're not already following Ed Mylett on Instagram... do it.  He's a great resource for adding some positivity, encouragement & inspiration to your feed. 

The other day he posted a short video titled "Why You Always Need a Crisis."  In it, he starts off by saying he was turning 48 and his daughter asked him "dad... what's up with the midlife crisis... the beard, the hair dye, all the selfies on instagram... what's going on, dad?"  Kinda funny, kinda relatable.  I think my own daughter has given up on questioning me.  TikTok anyone?  LOL

If I could share the short video on here, I would, but how he responded to her is really thought-provoking... essentially admitting to yes, I am going through a midlife crisis, but before you were born I was going through one, and at every age I'm in a crisis to change... to be a better human than I was before.  Our cells replace themselves every year, our digestive tract every 6 weeks, you're supposed to replace yourself every single year.  The whole concept of life is to be constantly replacing ourselves.  

He followed it up with this post & I love his positive spin on what it means to be in a "crisis"...

 

 

edmylett

I’m in a crisis RIGHT NOW!⁣

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I’m in an ongoing crisis to CONTINUALLY become the next best version of myself. ⁣
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Tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone and at the end of my life, when I come face to face with the person God created me to be, the BEST version of who I could have become, I want us to be identical twins!
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I want to know that I didn’t waste my time here on this earth. ⁣
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I want to know that I FULFILLED MY PURPOSE.⁣
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So I don’t have time to waste... and neither do you! If you feel stagnant, it’s time to crank up the pressure and put yourself in crisis mode! ⁣
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The whole purpose of life, besides serving others, is to grow, to change, to evolve. ⁣
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Get some URGENCY behind you! It will motivate and push you to reach the next best version of yourself. ⁣
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Think about what’s on the line. Your legacy? Your business? Your faith?⁣
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Think about who’s depending on you. Your family? Your employees? You?⁣
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As long as you’re alive, you’ve got more work to do! You’ve got a better you to become! ⁣

 

 

 

 

2020 has certainly made me think a lot about becoming the best version of myself... a better mom, a better friend, a better instructor... a better me FOR ME. 

 

This year forced us to majorly pivot at Bloom, with all of us learning to become virtual instructors.  Yelling, dancing, lifting weights to a monitor with the same energy as if we were actually in a room full of people.  ALL OF US... hand-in-hand, depending on each other to make it all happen... from behind the monitor with all the tech issues, to in front of the monitor pulling every bit of acting we had, to each and every person engaging through their monitors & working out along with us.  Still makes me tear up just thinking about it.  How much I looked forward to seeing all those faces on the other side of the screen.  Seems like forever ago that it happened & in a strange way I even kinda miss it & who it forced me to be. 

 

And about 200 videos later in our library, we pulled it off.  We are still pulling it off thanks to a year of forcing individuals to CHANGE. 

 

Stand still or grow, change and evolve.

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. 

The universe has a way of forcing it when you resist it. 

 

 

On a similar note... I'm obsessed with this song & this video...

 

 

Happy Saturday!  Hope your weekend is AMAZING.

 

XOXO

"Don't ya love it... don't ya love it yeah... "

Happy Sunday FUNday and just a quickie post today!

Hope you're still surviving & somehow thriving to the best of your ability during quarantine... especially now that some of the requirements have been lifted... at least for St Charles County anyway. 

Also happy that I have toilet paper too.  It's the little things that have mattered along the way.

Can't wait to be back to dancing, lifting weights and doing Small Group Training in the studio with all my friends again! It feels like it's been FOR.EVER.

In the mean time though, here's a newer routine that I posted yesterday.  Feel free to follow my YouTube account for notifications when I upload something new...

Have a great week!!

XOXO

It's 5:00 somewhere...

 

I've had so much I want to write about lately... so many emotions over the past month... much of which relates to my job and trying to figure out  who I am outside of my role as instructor because while it doesn't define me, so much of my identity is tied to it in the last 9 years.  And let's face it, that role has changed abruptly.  I guess I'm still doing it in a virtual way by myself, but I really feel more like I'm on an extended vacation I never asked for... because goodness knows, I rarely get a sub unless I'm out of town or at death's door. 

I don't like missing class. 

My role of MOM isn't quite as hands-on as it used to be now that Bryn is almost 19.  Yes, she still relies on me to keep a roof over our heads, pay the bills and be the adult around here (& I use that term loosely), but let's be honest... we've been abruptly thrown into me being her new college roommate for the rest of the semester.  And I imagine her former roommate didn't pester her to go outside and take a walk or run.   She eventually gives in, but it's probably not at the top of her list of fun things to do. 

But what else is there to do?  Besides maybe pester her to help with the dishes and argue with her that...  NO, she's not going to go hang out in Columbia just for tonight no matter how many times you ask me.  Trust me... I get it.  This stinks.  It is what it is though, so let's make the best of it. 

And that reminds me... I never did post pictures of her abrupt exit from Mizzou last month.  Thankfully my parents helped us move her out because let's just say... she's her mama's girl with a lot of stuff and we needed an extra car...

 

Anyhoo... we all feel the same about this virus situation, I know.  And it's a day to day thing when it comes to the emotion in all of it. 

 

But bring on Easter.   It's a holiday I always always celebrate with family and for many of the more recent years, we've spent it in Denver with my sister, Marci, hosting us.  It's also the anniversary of my sister, Kaysy's, death.  It was March 31st... 18 years ago... and Easter Sunday that year.  Horrible memory for a holiday, but we've managed to get to a place together where we're celebrating her life rather than being stuck in grief over her death.  It took time though.  Many years.

While we won't all be together in Denver this year, hitting Red Rocks for Easter Sunrise Service...  which by the way is a MUST if you've never done it... we will be all attending a virtual church service together and then doing a family Zoom call afterward.  It will result in many laughs, I'm sure, probably a virtual cocktail in hand if I know my family, and will be as good as we can have right now. 

 

 

I listened to the following video the other day & thought I'd share.  This guy is always very compelling & engaging with his content, but very real in what he shares about putting our current reality into perspective.  It's worth the listen when you have a few minutes! 

 

 

Love that he said at one point "these kinds of businesses are hard even when they're easy"... which just about sums up the fitness industry too. 

If I can ask anything... and you're part of that industry along with me... hang in there with us.  We're determined, so VERY determined, and we've managed to quickly change gears and provide virtual services, but we're counting on you too.   And maybe a few prayers as well. 

We're all in this together.

 

Happy Easter, peeps.  You all ROCK.

XOXO

Perspective matters...

Just a quick post....

Thankful for weekends like this one when I get to see my girl and get a few dozen hugs and of course some laughs too... that goes without say. 

Always gotta find the humor in things. 

 

Also... if you're not already following Jay Shetty on Instagram... he's a wonderful source of inspiration, deep thoughts and positivity.  

Change the way you think. 

It's not what you look at that matters... it's what you SEE...

 

 

A good sweat sesh can change your perspective too, at least temporarily anyway.  So set your alarm & join me at Bloom Fitness Studio in the morning. 

I promise it will help...

Sunday FUNday...

XOXO

Just an instructor...

 

I've been wanting to write about this for awhile now... what it means to be "just an instructor."  But since I was reminded this morning by a very dear bestie that she will always think of me on President's Day because it's the anniversary of my first Zumba class... I thought I'd finally do it.

First of all that pic is 6 years old... back when I was younger, still married & still had a beard.  I've since also decided smaller hats were more my style. 

I posted that pic on the 2-year anniversary of my first Zumba class, which was 8 years ago on President's Day.  Baberaham Lincoln anyone?  LOL

 

Actually I should say it was the first day of my regular class because a couple months prior I was a last minute sub for a Thanksgiving morning Zumba class that was taking place in the YMCA gym for oh... only about 70 people.  I'd been licensed to teach since September of that year (2011), but had no desire to actually do it.   

Teaching was never a goal of mine.  I got talked into going to the training, but it wasn't something I planned to do anything with.  Until about 2 months later at 7:00am on Thanksgiving morning when I had to step up to the plate as a pinch hitter... one whom by the way had never even made a playlist on iTunes or burned a CD for a class.  Yes... that was back in CD days. 

To say the morning started out frantically is an understatement, but I go into game mode in a challenge and figure shit out.  Oh... and did I mention it was a 75-minute class and I was going to be the only instructor?  This was also prior to big "mashup" holidays where we had more than 1 instructor in the lineup.

I'll also say that in that gym for all those people, they had a boom box for me. 

A boom box. 

At one point as I confidently walked into the building with 75-minutes worth of Zumba songs that weren't even my own, but I had memorized over time... a member walked up to me & asked if I was going to be wearing a mic so people could hear me in the gym.  I pretty much just looked at her & said... "Umm no.  There's no verbal cueing in Zumba."  Least of my worries at the moment, yet I still remember this exchange vividly.  Stress will do that I suppose.

Anyhoo... I did it.  And it was fun.  So much fun.  And nerve-wracking, but even to this day, once the music starts I get lost in it.  Or actually... maybe I find myself in it. 

I think most of us can probably say that as participants too.  And I hear it all the time.  How people are happy in that room.  That life stays outside those doors and for an hour there's freedom in dancing & being lost in the music. 

In all of this over the years, I have found myself and what I believe I was created to do... outside of being a mom, which is first & foremost in my life and my greatest pride. 

 

A few months later I was offered the job to regularly teach on Mondays & I jumped at the opportunity, figuring if I could handle that class on Thanksgiving, everything else was going to be a walk in the park after that. 

Since that first class I have regularly taught at 5 different studios/gyms in the area, had my own gig for elementary teachers after school in their gym for a year, and was a regular sub at 2 other places.  Thousands of hours practicing & choreographing over the years, classes, mashups, special events, tears of happiness & extreme frustration, blood, sweat, caluses, bruises to my body & my ego, more friends that have come than gone, new formats I'd eventually get certified to teach like Zumba Toning, The CRT Method, Body Pump & The MIX by Piloxing... not to mention deciding on a whim to teach Step even though I'd never taught it before.  I eventually had to learn to teach with a mic & worse yet, verbally cue for an entire hour... the gal at the Y on Thanksgiving would've been proud I'm sure... and that alone was gigantic for me.  

I still enjoy the opportunity & challenge of starting over and building a following for a new class.  I still enjoy learning from & being inspired by those I admire and really need to do it more often.  I LOVE my job.  I still haven't hit burnout & thankfully my body is still allowing me to do as much of this as I want, even though I could stand to take better care of it sometimes.  I'm not exactly the youngest instructor around & I was already probably considered "old" at 42 for becoming a first-time instructor compared to most. 

 

I blogged once about a Rachel Hollis/Ed Mylett podcast which spoke about remembering who you were before the world told you who you were. Before you were someone's wife. Before you were someone's mom. Before you were someone's employee.

To think back to who you were as a child. What were your interests? What were your goals? Your hobbies? Your dreams?

Along with constantly taking pictures, making scrapbooks out of construction paper or whatever I could find, always drawing or creating in some way... I have always been into music, probably because music filled our home more than TV when I was growing up.  I was always singing along to music & dancing, played the flute for 8 years too.

As a foreshadowing of things to come, I'd be the group leader of "shows" we'd put on in my basement. I'd come up with choreography & decide how the show would play out with my sister, our neighbor & me. Usually that meant I was the lead singer/dancer in front doing my thang... while those 2 were doing cartwheels or something I suggested as backup.   That's me in the middle with the red leotard & red tights.  And of course a white sweater my mom made me wear because it was "cold in the basement," which I clearly took off for a mid-show costume change.  Or maybe I was just sweating... I do tend to do that profusely as you've likely noticed.  Although my thoughts are that if you still look good at the end of your workout, you haven't worked hard enough.  LOL

I'd eventually have a couple years in gymnastics during elementary school... not really my thing primarily due to fear of flipping over bars & the horse, played a lot of sports... 10 years of softball and a year of volleyball thrown in there too... wanted so badly to be on the pom squad only to be cut from tryouts, and then eventually my sophomore year of high school I became a cheerleader.  Man I was in my element then.  I may have zero dance experience in my life, but I can yell & encourage with all my heart, and I'll have sharp arms & jumps while doing it.  Gotta always stick the landing, folks...

Ironically, now that I think about it... some of the most inspiring instructors I know were all cheerleaders... every. single. one. of. them... including my own mom who was a cheerleader & still to this day is regularly subbing fitness classes.   I get it from my mama.

And don't even get me started on the amazing Netflix series Cheer.  Binge watch all 6 episodes immediately if you haven't seen it yet.  So much more to take away from it than what you might think is just a show about cheerleading. 

 

But back to the reason for all of these words.  When I hear someone say "just an instructor" about their own self, I almost take offense to it.  I've probably downplayed the role myself before too.  But that title is an honor.  That title is so much more than that.  That title for me is so much more than the 7 hours I'm actually seen in class each week because most of the work I do is outside of class. 

Some of the many titles one could also say about being an instructor is also leader, motivator, counselor, cheerleader, actress, performer, choreographer, athlete.  And who knew my marketing degree would come in handy as well... although in this day & age of social media, marketing is a lot different than it was 30 years ago, so I've also had to figure all that out too. 

 

Growing thick skin is another major requirement & I've lost a few people I considered good friends along the way.  What I've gained over the years & the growth that it's caused, both personally & professionally, is immeasurable though and I'm endlessly grateful for all of it. 

 

I wanted to be able to turn off the ability to comment on this post.  I tried & there's no way with Facebook.  I'm not writing all this because I'm in need of feedback or pats on the back because truly... I get that regularly... it's a blessing & a constant reminder of why I'm beyond lucky enough to be in this position.

 

What I want to say most is that I see you.  All of you... in the front of the room next to me, in the middle of the room and more importantly in the back of the room. 

I am you.  I was you.  YOU... in the back of the room where I started out too.  Or started over, I should say, after my sister passed away.  It was my 2 hours a week away from my new baby Bryn where I could go get lost in the music.  I'd walk in right before class & leave right after.  It wasn't a social hour for me & I didn't even care to know another soul in there, I just needed the therapy.  I needed to feel more like me again.  And it worked.  It helped so much with the extreme grief I was experiencing all while trying to be the best new mom I could be for this new little life that didn't care about my grief... she just needed her mom's love  She saved me too. 

And as I see happen with others, we eventually find the confidence to let go of our inhibitions & fear of being judged... and just move.  To sometimes moving a little closer to the front of the room.   To experiencing joy through movement.  As our bodies become stronger, our minds most certainly follow. 

 

Whether we've just recently met or you've been alongside me over the years throughout this journey, I'm thankful for all of you.  Your smiles, your energy, your willingness to kick ass & take names (or forget names as I often do), your strength, your discipline for showing up, your stories whether I know them or not...  your presence in my classes & more importantly in my life... makes every day worth it.

Find what lights you up.  Even if it's not your job... find a hobby or a pastime that makes you feel the most you.  The child you once were, whoever that was before life, circumstances or your inner voice told you otherwise.  Even if it's just a few hours a week that you can fit in.  Find yourself. 

Who knows how long I'll be doing this, but I know without a doubt my life will always involve being creative in some way and if nothing else, I will ALWAYS have my car to perform in while driving.  That gig started at 16 and never stopped...

 

Happy President's Day & God bless America! 

XOXO

 

 

Mid Century Glam...

 

Well, I'm pretty excited to share a couple things.  On a whim I decided to redo my bedroom.  I've lived here 4 years and barely bought anything new, other than Bryn's bedroom furniture, when I moved in.  Believe it or not, I still had temporary shades behind the curtains in my bedroom so I just never opened them. 

For 4 years, people.  SMH

So when I mentioned to my friend, who's an interior designer, that I was thinking about possibly buying some new furniture... I posed the question... if you were going to redo this room, what would you do with it? 

And that day, we ended up in a store looking at furniture and accessories, buying paint & within days the room was complete.  And no more temporary shades either.  I actually have some blinds and can open the windows every day.  Hello sunshine in my room.  It's the little things that matter! 

 

 

Ok then... here's some before & after photos from my bedroom...

Before...

After...

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After...

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After...

 

I love it!  So happy with the dark blue accent wall & the pops of animal print & of course fur! 

It's all SO me & it makes me really happy to walk into this room now. 

XOXO

Make a girl go crazy...

Photo credit: AD images

 

Wish I did this more often over the years & maybe it should be my goal to do more of this next year.... but after class last night we videoed a newer fav song of mine.  Primarily I wanted to do this because I like to do end-of-year wrap up videos that include some video clips of classes, along with all the photos from the past year.  It's fun to look back on the memories!

However, since this turned out so cute, I thought I'd post it here.  And although I need to get better with the height/angle of the camera, I think we ended up being centered better than I thought we were & you can see at least a peek of everyone who graciously stayed to dance with me after class.  For my camera-shy friends, this won't show up in everyone's news feeds... people will actually have to click on my blog to see it.  Although I think everyone will feel proud of this, because they freakin rocked it!!! 

 

Man it makes me smile to dance with these people & SO many more!! 

I like big bags and I cannot lie...

 

I mentioned in my last post that watching YouTube videos has caused me to sell some clothing, shoes & handbags via online consignment sites.  I've purchased some handbags/accessories as well.  

Has anyone else done this yet? 

 

Of course buying/selling online isn't a new thing, but doing it with porch pickup or other typical local social media routes isn't the safest alternative for a single woman doing that by herself.  And quite frankly, I haven't been impressed with the amount of money they're willing to give you for your stuff at places like Hut 8... although maybe areas outside of O'Fallon pay more... who knows. 

 

According to VOGUE magazine though, the luxury resale market is booming & apparently causing a shift in the way consumers make expensive purchases. 

And in my opinion... why not?!  Bags/accessories are usually in great condition & a fraction of the price if you purchased it brand new.   AND these companies are inspecting the items to make sure it's not fake. 

 

I've tried a few sites lately and have been VERY happy with buying AND selling! 

 

The bug all started with a Fendi handbag I've had for probably almost 15 years and literally used maybe once.  I bought it online and wasn't crazy about the size of it, but kept it thinking maybe I'd change my mind or find the perfect outfit for it.  Never happened. 

However, I kept thinking... it's Fendi so it has value.  And it was cute just hanging there on the chest in my closet too.  What can I say... my mom collects bells & I collect handbags.  LOL

 

However... even if I did consider selling it all these years, I had no idea what it's current value was.  

One thing I was fairly sure of though... Hut 8 was likely not going to give me a fair price & I figured random strangers on Facebook Marketplace weren't either.  LOL

 

So I took a chance & sent it to the Real Real because I'd seen them advertise on Bravo... during the Housewives of course. 

I did email & ask questions... like... what if my bag doesn't sell, then what?  They said items typically sell within 30 days, but if it's been 90 days & you don't have luck, you can request to have it returned to you. 

Anyway... my bag sold in less than 2 weeks.  Would I have pocketed more cash had I sold it on my own?  Absolutely.   But I'm still happy with the fact that I didn't have to photograph it, post it & deal with selling it to strangers...

And that started the ball rolling on selling more stuff! 

 

I have since found a couple more sites I LOVE... Thred Up & Rebag:

 

• THRED UP is a great resource for getting rid of brand name clothing, shoes, handbags, jewelry & accessories.   Click on this link for $10 off your first purchase. 

I love that they'll either send you a big bag with the free shipping label already adhered OR you can print out a free shipping label & just use your own boxes.  Either can be filled up to 30lbs.  I went the box route because it takes longer to wait for them to ship you a bag.

I sent 2 boxes of stuff and I love that they photograph & then give you an itemized list of what they kept to sell.  So far I've sold a Coach handbag, an Express cardigan & blouse, Victoria's Secret leggings, Sam Edelman pumps, a Nike shirt and a couple coats since I took this screenshot.  Once each item sells, you get a percentage of the sale...

 

 

 

• REBAG is slightly different for selling.  You send them a photo of your handbag & if they accept it... you send it in using a free prepaid shipping label and then they pay you within 2 days of receiving it.  So... no waiting to see if it sold before you're paid on this website!
• Get 15% OFF ALL PURCHASES ON THE ENTIRE SITE through Sunday, December 1st: Rebag

 

But again... I'm really digging using these resources for BUYING... especially after I've sold stuff.  Out with the old & in with the NEW. 

Or rather used, I suppose... but it's new to me.  LOL

 

I've snagged a bag, a belt & a wallet in recent months... all used... all at a steal... and so far I haven't been disappointed with any of my purchases OR my sales! 

 

Have you ever tried this & if so... let me know what your experience has been!

XOXO

"Sometimes you kick... sometimes you get kicked... "

 

Recently wrote a blog at Bloom Fitness Studio regarding your TIME... how you spend it and who your circle of influence is MATTERS greatly.  Content was pulled from a chapter in a book we read 50 Ways to Yay during our last book club.  The book is a fast read, but full of ways, 50 to be exact, to add more positivity to your life.  Highly recommend!

Since I try to be purposeful in making my own circle of influence as positive as I can... and thankfully my job is a huge part of that... I try to also do the same with who & what I follow on my social media pages.

 

Ed Mylett is someone I follow on Instagram... among many other people I find inspiring or influential in a positive way.  He's an author and speaker. Thought I'd share what he posted the other day because I think it ties in well with the subject of time & how temporary our time really is in this life. 

 

 

"151,600 people passed away yesterday. They don’t get another day on this earth. No more second chances.⁣
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The gift that is this life, passed away with them.⁣
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What a shame it was for those of them who left this earth never LIVING their LIFE. ⁣
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Dying full of unfinished business. Unfulfilled Dreams. Memories that don’t exist. Joy that was never felt. Differences that were never made. Moments that never happened. A life that will be forgotten and not remembered. ⁣
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For those who never lived on their own terms, I feel sad. ⁣
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For those who showed the COURAGE not to CONFORM to the way their FAMILY, FRIENDS or FEARS told them they should be, I CELEBRATE them.⁣
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Stop living your life on the terms other people have set for you.⁣
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This is your ONE PRECIOUS LIFE. ⁣
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Be YOU!⁣
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Do YOU!⁣
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You aren’t getting out of this life, ALIVE. ⁣
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So nothing to fear. ⁣
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You were born to do something great with your life. In your own special way. ⁣
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Live it all out⁣
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Live it on your terms, my friend. Only then will you have no regrets #maxout"

 

 

 

How are you living YOUR life?  Are you driven by your faith or your fears? 

Are you living your life on your own terms or the terms other people have set for you? 

This can be said of your relationships, your job, your hobbies.  What or who is it that's holding you back from doing something great with your life?

In all likelihood, it's you holding you back. 

And frankly by not living your life on your own terms, it's just a matter of time before it manifests itself in a negative way, through coping behaviors or even addictions like over-eating, alcoholism, gambling, etc. 

 

Your life is YOUR story.  Edit your chapters & the main characters intentionally and often... 

XOXO

"Rhythm is a dancer... it's a source companion... "

Sometimes... or well I should probably say MANY times... when I sit down to choreograph routines for my classes and look to YouTube for inspiration, I'll get sidetracked and watch something completely unrelated. 

In fact, I've kind of got into watching a lot of videos lately... which has also lead to selling old clothing, handbags & shoes... and well, even buying a couple designer bags from consignment... but that's a fun story for another day. 

 

Today, a preview for an Ellen episode grabbed my attention because it mentioned dancing in the title. 

Makes sense, right.  I mean... I should be doing my own dancing, but whatever. 

 

If you watch her show, which I don't... and not because I don't think she's incredibly talented & hilarious, I just don't watch much TV especially during the day... you've probably seen the games she plays.  This particular game had Ellen & Twitch guessing whether the audience member could dance based simply on their appearance &/or body language while talking to them. 

All dancing aside, or rather the lack thereof, I was literally laughing out loud at Twitch & Ellen's reactions & responses.  Seriously.  Literally laughing out loud.  And since I live in a townhouse I often wonder if my neighbor can hear me. 

This can happen while group texting with my family as well, because they're ridiculously funny. 

And I'm a loud laugher sometimes, what can I say.

 

Anyway...  being the very focused instructor that I am... I watched another video after that with  the same game... again laughing out loud.  I mean... sometimes a girl needs a good laugh.  So what if I don't have any new material for class?

 

And well... suffice it to say I thought... what the hell, as long as I've strayed this far off course, why not just go to Ellen's entire YouTube page and see if there's anything else good I've been missing. 

Don't judge.  Sometimes I'm just not inspired to dance.  Shocking, I know.

 

Why this video captured my attention next, I don't know.  The name of the movie, I guess... although I haven't heard about it yet or seen any previews.  So I clicked on it. 

And let's just say my out loud laughing went straight to crying in 2 minutes flat. 

Hi, I'm Deana.  I laugh easily AND cry easily as well...

 

This looks good.  And pretty realistic.  Divorce or not, marriage is work.  Not sure if I'll watch it when it comes out in December if I managed to cry just watching the dang trailer, but it is apparently being released on Netflix too.  So maybe I'll just do that in the privacy of my own home rather than embarrass myself in public.  LOL

I watched a couple more related videos to the movie because my curiosity was now piqued.   Apparently Scarlett was going through her own divorce when she was asked to play the role.  The director had no idea that she was & she had no idea what the movie was about when he asked to meet with her.  But in hindsight she said it was cathartic to be part of the movie. 

And here's a little more about what went into it as well...

 

 

In related news, the house that I built with Bob just went on the market a couple days ago.  It's the house Bryn was born & raised in.  And while I haven't lived there for almost 4 years now, and Bryn has of course been with me the majority of that time, I'd be lying if I didn't say it's kind of sad.  I imagine she feels the same way about it's impending sale, but she has a lot of good friends and fun stuff going on at Mizzou right now so it's a great distraction.  She really is enjoying her time there.  I'm so grateful. And if you'll allow me a little more bragging... she received notice of Academic Excellence from the university because her grades are so awesome. 

So yeah... no complaints here even if I do think she burns the candle at both ends & needs to get more sleep.

And man do I miss her.  This empty nest thing is real, yo. 

 

But if you haven't already figured out after years of reading this silly blog... writing is cathartic for me. 

And even better than that... I've got a lot of cool friends, a very funny family and of course much dancing to keep me distracted. 

Even if I don't have any new choreography today.

 

 

But speaking of TV and how I don't watch much of it... the Housewives are on.  So yeah... I need to tune in.  It's a level of crazy I just don't want to miss...  LOL

Between that show & 2 fun classes at Bloom beforehand... Tuesday might be my fav night of the week, I'm just sayin...

XOXO

"You need to calm down... you're being too loud... "

Advocare has some great deals right now if you're interested!  If you're a brand new customer, you can get 10% off your total purchase by using this link: 10% OFF YOUR FIRST ORDER!

 

A few popular things you might be interested in are Spark & Meal Replacement Shakes.  They both come in individual packets and are fast & easy to use simply with a bottle of water.

SPARK is a vitamin & amino acid supplement that contains nutrients, CAFFEINE & no added sugar.  It's a great way to kick your soda addiction and still get your caffeine.  LOTS of flavors to choose from, although it seems as if most people love Fruit Punch.

New Vanilla Latte Spark... which is apparently best served HOT!

 

While I do think eating real & nutritious food is more beneficial on a REGULAR basis... I LOVE the convenience of meal replacement shakes when you're short on time or on the go!  Lots of vitamins & minerals, low in calories, high in protein & fiber.  Very filling & they taste GREAT.

I especially love to make protein balls with them for a snack that's sweet but also nutritious... 

I've also made Pumpkin Apple Crumble with the limited time Pumpkin Spice flavor that's so good...

 

Pumpkin Apple Crumble

2 whole apples, cored & chopped

1/4 cup old fashioned oats, raw

1 Pumpkin Spice Meal Replacement Shake package

1/2 teaspoon cinnamon

1/8 cup slivered almonds or chopped nuts [optional]

1/2 teaspoon vanilla [optional]

1-2 teaspoon honey [optional]

 

Place chopped apples in microwave for 3 minutes, stirring halfway through until apples cooked to desired texture.  In separate bowl, mix oats, shake, cinnamon & nuts (if using).  Add apples to dry mixture, along with vanilla & honey (if using).  Makes 6 servings. 

 

Buy one box, get one FREE Meal Replacement Shakes (select flavors)

 

 

You may or may not have seen Advocare in the news recently.  Apparently there was a lawsuit against Advocare & several Advocare distributors alleging that they were operating as a pyramid scheme.   

Quite frankly, I think most companies you see people sharing about on social media are structured the same way... but whatever.  The FTC ruling doesn't really affect me.  I have just a handful of regular customers and really didn't work this business as much as I should have in order to be affected financially.   

I didn't have a "downline" of distributors that involved my profiting from what they sold... and well my "upline" is no longer profiting from what little I sell.  LOL 

 

I do know a LOT of people who have jumped ship and are now all of a sudden on board & "able to lock arms & stand behind" another company now... which quite frankly amuses me.  You were only able to stand behind Advocare when you were making a lot of money?  Ummmkay.... gotcha.   

 

 

Anyhooo... I still personally use Advocare's products and have respectfully declined standing behind another company so we can all profit from each other. 

 

That's a whole lot of information that the majority of you reading this had no idea about... but since I've seen the link shared on Facebook, I thought I'd clarify what the FTC ruling meant... and also clarify that the quality of Advocare's products is not in question.  It's simply in how they are structured and how they have changed they way distributors are now paid... or not paid. 

 

And let's just say I'll be keeping my day job.  LOL 

Speaking of which... Happy Tuesday!  Double classes tonight and I'm excited to be teaching a pop-up STEP + TONE class on Sunday afternoon! 

XOXO

"All the leaves are brown... and the sky is grey... "

 

Hard to believe, but it's already October.  And while the weather doesn't exactly feel Fall-ish yet... it's just a matter of time before a new season is upon us & it's dark outside by 5:00. 

But as the seasons change... hopefully so do we just a bit, with setting new goals or waking up each morning with more intention. 

 

Are you someone who tends to hold onto what was or someone who welcomes what's ahead? 

As the end of the year approaches... so does the holiday season, which can bring added stress & diet choices that may not necessarily be the best.

 

I joined a Facebook group along with some friends from Bloom to take part in Rachel Hollis' Last 90 Days Challenge.  Let me know if you want to join us & I'll add you to the group.  It's free & sometimes just having the support of others helps us to be more successful in our own goals.

"5 to Thrive" is the basis for the challenge:

1. Wake up 1 hour earlier & use that time for yourself
2. Workout for at least 30 minutes
3. Drink half your body weight in ounces of water
4. Give up 1 category of food
5. Write down 10 things you're thankful for

 

A couple of those things are no-brainers for me... with the working out & drinking enough water.  I would like to be more intentional with journaling what I'm thankful for each day though, as well as writing in general... and even scrapbooking, of course.  Both of those things are just as therapeutic for me as getting in a good sweat on the dance floor. 

 

Anyway... I read this the other day & loved it so I thought I'd share...

 

 

"A child wishes summer would last forever. But if summer actually did last forever, it would very soon grow painfully boring and tedious.

One season ends, and makes room for a fresh new season, full of energy and possibilities. One door closes, another opens, one opportunity disappears, and another is just over the horizon.

Summer comes to an end, as does every good season. And all those impending deadlines prompt you, motivate you, beg you to make the most of right now.

The bananas on your kitchen counter are there to be eaten, now, before they turn brown and mushy. The hours in this day are here to be lived, to be filled, before they turn into hazy regrets.

Life is defined by change, sustained and energized by change, inseparable from the changes. Embrace this moment now, when you can, and then embrace the next one as it arrives.

This season won't last forever. Yet the values you live, the love you give and plant firmly in your heart, will survive all the passing days."

-Ralph Marston

 

Have a great day!

XOXO

"Beautiful people... champagne and rolled-up notes..."

 

Had lunch with a friend recently who was telling me about some of her current skincare obsessions, which lead to her purchasing this book... Eat Beautiful. 

I was intrigued because let's face it... I sometimes do judge a book by it's cover... and since it was pink with metallic gold lettering, I thought it was cute enough to be on display as a coffee table book if nothing else. 

But the content is great as well.  And quite honestly, it's pretty much how I eat most of the time. 

But if you're curious to know what foods are good for repairing skin cells, better digestion, detoxification, boosting your mood and more... this is a great read.

She talks a lot about how the food we eat, can either mess with our skin and prematurely age us... or nourish, not only our bodies, but our skin too.  I love it.  There's even a lot of recipes in the book with pretty pictures as well, if you're into that. 

And I don't know about you, but as far as this aging thing goes... I'm not going down without a fight.  LOL 

 

The obvious bonus to adding nutritious foods to your diet, while removing toxins like sugar & processed foods... is that not only will your skin look better, but your whole body will look and feel better... especially if weight loss or a healthier lifestyle is a goal. 

 

Coincidentally...on a similar note, I read this today & thought I'd share...

 

 

"The quality of your output is highly dependent on the quality of your input. What quality is the input you are giving to your life?

Vigorous, healthy activity, good nutrition, positive, truthful information sources all lead you toward favorable outcomes. So do beneficial habits, a variety of experiences, uplifting thoughts, and enthusiastic people.

If the results you desire are not coming out of your efforts, ask yourself this. What can you do to improve what you're putting in?

You can't make a quality product from inferior raw materials. To achieve the best outcome, start with the highest quality input.

Bypass the junk in your food, your facts, your friends, and your activities. Insist on truthful, in-depth information, quality nutrition, challenging work, and positive people in your life.

The quality of the life you live comes from the quality of what you put into it. Every day, every encounter, every choice, take the opportunity to give your life the best input."

- Ralph Marston

 

 

It's all food for thought and a good reminder to have more self care.

Detox your mind, body, refrigerator, home, timeline, contact list, environment... all of those things can weigh you down if they aren't healthy or positive.

 

Happy Monday... hope it's a great week!

XOXO

Mirror mirror on the ceiling...

 

Looking for a fun and easy way to jazz up a basic "boob light?" 

Or worse yet... the builder's grade light most of us get in a walk-in closet? 

 

Maybe I shouldn't really care so much about the lighting in my closet, but since I kinda like staring at all the shoes I rarely wear while I'm mostly in workout gear... I figure I should also like the lighting as well.

Although... since I don't exactly have a handy-man around anymore... any projects I attempt on my own cannot include rewiring of any sort.  Good grief, I had enough trouble changing out a doorknob a few weeks ago... so no way I'm attempting anything electrical just yet!  But the new doorknob is super cute if I do say so myself, so I'm kinda proud.  LOL

 

Anyway... I've had this project pinned on my Pinterest board for quite some time and finally decided to investigate some mirror options online that would work for this project.  Here is the image for my inspiration and the directions they provided seemed easy enough:

 

I found a mirror on Amazon that had the perfect dimensions... and let's just say I was also crossing my fingers that I measured correctly and the mirror would come out without an issue. 

Stonebriar Round Decorative Antique Gold 24" Metal Starburst Hanging Mirror for Wall, Modern Boho Decor for the Living Room, Bathroom, Bedroom, and Entryway

 

That actually ended up being the most time-consuming part... trying to get the dang mirror out.  And yes, I had pliers to pull up the clips behind the mirror, and yes I guess I thought it would just pop right out like a picture in a frame.  However, I'm pretty sure they must've super-glued it on so as to keep it secured through any force of nature.  But being the true determined Taurus that I am, I persevered and the next thing I knew it was shattered into a million tiny slivers all over the carpet.  #winning

So... if you need to figure in vacuuming time... the project MIGHT take more like 20 minutes than 10 minutes. 

Here's what I started with...

 

I removed the dome and then placed the frame of the mirror around the circumference of the light fixture.  There's about a half-inch to spare, which is good because I didn't need to paint or do anything to make the light look as if it wasn't all attached together. 

I added 4 screws in between spokes around the frame to attach it to the ceiling.  I also decided to hit the top of the screws with a gold Sharpie paint pen because I didn't like that the silver screw heads stood out next to the gold frame.  I should probably go back & add another screw because clearly they aren't equidistant, but again this is my closet & I'm the only one who's going to really see that minor detail...

Bryn was at school as you know, so I did this project by myself.  The trickiest part, aside from avoiding shards of glass on the carpet, is obviously holding the frame in place, while trying to attach it to the ceiling.  But with a little patience & elbow grease it is totally doable!!

Quite honestly I love it so much, I'd do it in other rooms except I had already changed out all the ugly builder's grade light fixtures when I moved in.  Although I guess I could hit the boring entryway light.  It looks pretty Mid Century Modern to me, so if you love that style as much as I do, this is an inexpensive way to add new life to a boring light.  I'll likely go ahead and add this to my other closet as well!

 

As for the shoe storage if you're interested... that's been around since I moved here and I miss having actual shelves, but these were an inexpensive solution that allowed for an organized display without having to remove the wire shelving.  Because why not have a nice little display of shoes you rarely wear?   SMH

SONGMICS 5 Tiers Shoe Rack Space Saving Shoe Tower Cabinet Storage Organizer Black 39"L Holds 20-25 Pair of Shoes ULSH55H

 

And on that note... happy Friday!  Hope your weekend is off to a fabulous start!

XOXO

 

 

The world is your runway ♥

Souper duper...

 

Quick post about a new obsession... ♥

I don't usually promote things that are labelled "skinny" or "low fat"... because nutritionally that usually means that it's packed with extra sugar or some kind of preservative to make it taste better.  

So... yeah... steer clear of those products in the store.  If nothing else it gives a false sense of thinking you can just eat more of it, because hey... they said it's fat-free!  Ummmm... NO. 

Additionally...  I didn't reach for this product in the store because I think I need to lose weight or eat things that appear by the name to be low in calories.   Quite the contrary.

The reason it caught my eye was because it said VEGAN on the label.  I'm not totally vegan, as I do eat lean proteins like chicken, turkey, eggs & fish, but since Bryn has severe life-long allergies to dairy, eggs & nuts... I've become accustomed to reading labels since she was diagnosed at 3 years old.  And unless a product includes nuts... VEGAN usually means she CAN eat it! 

So I grabbed 2 different Skinny Souping soups to try.  If you're local, I found them at Fresh Thyme.  Here's the ingredients of the Spicy Super Greens soup:

 

All fresh ingredients.  No preservatives.  High in fiber.  And it tastes SO GOOD!!  

It's pretty low in calories too... thus the name. 

 

I checked out their website & apparently "souping" is a better alternative to a juice cleanse.   Unlike with juice cleanses... the fiber, vitamins & nutrients are all maintained in the souping process. 

 

Since a cleanse was also not my goal in trying this soup... I'll add that if you're like me & just going to eat it because veggies are really good for you... you could always add some extra protein like a few slices of grilled chicken or a handful of shrimp for a meal that's still healthy!

 

I've since gone back to try a 3rd soup... so I can now give a big thumbs-up for Spicy Super Greens, Tomato Ancient Grains & Broccoli Lemon Arugula.  And I'm patiently waiting for the others to be restocked so I can try more! 

It's BPA-free packaging, so you can heat it up in the microwave or just eat it cold... I like it both ways.  

 

Great way to sneak some extra veggies in your diet!

Also a quick way to have already-prepared meals ready to grab if you're lacking in time or desire to meal prep every week.

When you have already-prepared healthy meal choices, you're less likely to grab food that isn't good for your body.

 

And although I'm a fitness instructor that promotes EXERCISE... the biggest impact you can make for your body if weight loss is a goal... is in the kitchen.  "They say" it's 70% diet... and 30% gym.  And unfortunately, we can't out-exercise a bad diet. 

 

 

Anyhoo... obviously this soup isn't a cure-all, but it's worth trying if you want some healthy choices in your fridge.

And this isn't an ad, nor do I get anything other than the satisfaction of knowing that you might be inclined to add something quick & healthy to your diet.

 

And on that note... I do hope to see you in class as well! 

XOXO

Mizzou.... RAH!

 

Much has changed in 33 years since I left home for my freshman year at Mizzou in 1986. 

First & foremost... perms are no longer in style.  Thank goodness.

Prince music is still pretty cool, although I can't imagine anyone would hang a poster of him in their dorm anymore.  Also fairly confident no one has a land line phone with a cord hanging from their loft either.  In fact, speaking of lofts... you don't even have to buy lumber & build your own... the rooms already come with loftable beds. 

Oh and air conditioning too.   No box fan for the window necessary. 

In fact, much of the decor is now coordinated months ahead of time if you're lucky enough to know your roommate in advance of moving in.  And while I did know my roommate from high school, I think it's safe to say we both just brought whatever we could find at home for our bedding and decor. 

I mean... I needed every cent I had saved for clothes, Sunday night dinners when the dining halls weren't open, and well hairspray, obviously.

 

 

I also took off for school knowing my high school boyfriend would also be arriving to school when I got there.  That made leaving home a lot easier for me because my world pretty much revolved around him.   Of course by the time the holidays were rolling around, I was beyond ready for home.  And at one point I called my mom and said how much I was looking forward to some family time.   Things of course changed when my boyfriend ended up dropping out of school at semester, but by that time I'd met enough people that I survived without his daily existence in my life.  I imagine it gave me more time to study too.  LOL

Bryn on the other hand has 2 main people she's closest to... her best friend, who's going to another state university, and me.  And at the last minute she said to me, "I don't want to go." 

One thing I said to her though is that you're never stuck...  whatever or wherever it is.  Whether it's school, a relationship, a job... there's always a way out.  You always have options.  And if you decide this isn't for you, it's changeable.  There are other schools.  And not every successful person out there has a college degree. 

But with that... I also told her that while she may not realize it right now... she was going to meet a lot of new people, make new friends, enjoy this new independence, enjoy most of her classes, enjoy a different social life... and to give it a little time before she decided she didn't want to be there because we all feel like that when we're heading into new territory.

I also said that it's during our most uncomfortable times in life, that we're in a period of growth.  And that getting out of our comfort zone was a good thing, even if we don't usually realize that until we have hindsight. 

 

It's been 2 weeks since I dropped her off.  The longest time period I've gone without seeing her prior to this is a week.   So... let's just say I've had moments of really missing her. 

But this is what we raise our kids to do. 

We raise them to be independent of us.  We raise them to ultimately leave home & lead self-sufficient lives. 

These are things I know in my head... and I've certainly done my best to prepare her for... but once it's here, it's still hard.   And I'm sure it's safe to say we  all wish we could go back & slow time down a bit... because you're never really prepared in your heart for the next stage of life when you wave goodbye.

 

Part of me sees this prepared 18-year old adult and the other part of me still sees this sweet little girl with her backpack & her baby doll...

In fact, after we had a bit of a tearful goodbye in her dorm room, I nervously walked out of the building feeling like my legs were going to collapse underneath me.   Cried part of the way home.  And then cried again after posting pictures on Facebook & friends started commenting such sweet responses for us. 

 

She stays in pretty close touch with me though and seems very happy, and also very busy!  Between school starting and activities with her new sorority, Kappa Delta, I'm quite sure she's not getting a whole lot of sleep.  But therein lies college life.  And we all get to a point where we start saying no to fun, and yes to studying & going to bed early. 

 

I had someone ask the other day what made her decide on Mizzou.  I said, "Uh... she's pretty much been groomed since birth."  LOL

I ended up graduating from Missouri State University.  But her dad is alum.  My dad is alum.  My mom went to Mizzou before graduating at another school.  And while my sisters also graduated from Missouri State... we're all lifelong Mizzou fans.  Suffice it to say, it's been in her blood. 

And well... she's been going to football, basketball and volleyball games all her life.  So... while the choice was hers... she was determined to get into Mizzou.  And that she did.

Proud mom here... who's slightly envious of all the Interior Design classes she's taking.

 

 

And also REALLY glad she asked me to come visit tomorrow & grab lunch/shopping!  Can't wait to hug my girl...

"Half my life's in books, written pages... live & learn from fools & from sages...

 

I woke up to a text from a friend yesterday.  It was a screen shot of a page from her daily devotion & part of it reminded her of me.  A conversation we've had in the past that related to it.  She's a very dear bestie of mine & I don't always get to see her, but it was really nice to get a random text.   

Let me just first say that I find it so kind when someone thinks of me when they see something & then reach out to let me know. 

 

I've tried to become more aware & purposeful in reaching out to people when they cross my mind, especially if I haven't seen them in awhile.  I know it means a lot to me when it happens out of the blue & you just never know if someone needs a smile!

 

So... in my response to her text I mentioned I needed to get better with reading my own daily devotional book because I was hit & miss with it.  I'll be really good with reading it first thing every day... & then I'm waking up late or sleeping in when I don't have a class.... and next thing I know everything's gone to hell in a hand basket... also known as I'm just starting my days reading stupid Facebook instead.  SMH

 

However, her text reminded me to open up my book & read.  So I thought I'd share what I read...

Here's what I love though. 

This daily devotion reminded me that I JUST had a dream that night about 2 people that hurt me in some way in real life.  Like both of them, were in the same dream.   And the hurt had nothing to even do with each other.    

I may not have even picked up my book this morning had it not been for my friend's text. 

I may not have been reminded of my dream had I not read my devotion.

I may not have been reminded that not forgiving, only pollutes ME... keeping a hold on MY life, not theirs. 

 

I wouldn't say I live with bitterness or resentment by any means, but clearly some level of the hurt is in my subconscious and letting go of that is a choice I can certainly make!

 

 

Do you ever have dreams so vivid that they stick with you all day?  And then... God forbid you see that person & you're still mad about the dream... and then you're giving them the side eye like... oh you KNOW what you did in my dream... LOL

 

I have a few recurring dreams... likely all stress-related I guess... one of which is where I'm back in college. 

I get through the entire semester & then realize I've missed going to a class and I'm going to fail.  Like I've missed the entire semester & I'm thinking in my dream... how could I not find this class... how did I not go to this class for an entire semester... I'm an idiot!!

It always feels so real that I'll still be anxious about it after I wake up. 

I've talked to a lot of people who've gone to college & have similar dreams since then.

 

Also have a friend who told me she has a recurring dream that she's back in high school & can't remember her locker combination.

I mean... if that's the worst thing that can happen... really?? 

I guess I shouldn't judge.  Maybe she couldn't get her locker open & was late to class.   Being tardy to the party is stressful, I suppose.

 

But back to forgiveness... just do it.  Not for them, as you don't necessarily need to say to their face, "I forgive you," but for YOU.  Especially if it's a friend.  Let's be honest... as much I love my female friends, women can be... shall we say... not so nice.

Of course, I suppose men can be the same... LOL

Forgive and just move on with your awesomeness. 

 

And on that note... I'm hitting the beach this weekend with my awesome family.  Bryn is already there, but my sister & I join them tomorrow.  Can't wait!

"World turns black & white... pictures in an empty room... "

 

Do you ever sit in the same place every day & stare at an area that is completely uninspiring?  Not that every area of my house needs to be inspiring, but it does help if I like to walk into a room.  Or in this case, sit in a room.  And let's be honest... the sight of my teenage daughter's room drives me nuts, but I've learned to just close the door and ignore it. 

Maybe college will make her a bit more tidy?

When I moved here 3 years ago, I went from a very large 565 sq.ft.  craft room, to one the size of a very small bedroom, and a wardrobe closet that went from an entire converted bedroom to 2 small walk-ins. 

I'm not complaining.  I know I was fortunate to have that & that I'm blessed beyond measure with what I have now. 

But suffice it to say, I had to get rid of a few things & decide what I was really using & what I was just holding onto for no good reason.  And let's face it, it was less to move if I just threw it away or gave it away. 

Trust me, I know how to organize &/or purge.  I've been Marie Kondo-ing things before Marie Kondo was even born.  Minus the "thank you" part.

I also tried to do this move as inexpensively as possible... repainting or repurposing furniture I already had, using things in different ways, and basically seeing how things ended up with my personal life before making any crazy changes or big purchases. 

 

To make a long story short here, I got tired of looking at the closet in my craft room & decided to reorganize it with some shelves.  Once again though, I didn't get St Louis Closet Company on the phone like I did in my old house, I did this on the cheap.  Man would I love to have them come do all my closets though.  And I'd be lying if I didn't say I'd like to someday have another bedroom converted into my closet again.  It's on my vision board though.

I had 2 goals in redoing this closet... get the scrapbooks off the floor & into a more organized space, and find a place to put the vision board I made a few months ago during Book Club at Bloom Fitness Studio.  Technically when you make a vision board, you're then supposed to hang it somewhere you'll see every day... and well... mine's just been sitting on the closet floor inspiring no one. 

I'm not sure how long I'll be in this house, so for now I'm creating spaces to work for how I want to live in it, but I don't want to do anything too crazy that may not give me any return on my investment if I move. 

 

 

I started out with 2 shelf units.  And then once I got started & realized it wasn't working out like it did in my head, I ended up buying a 3rd set. 

Sterilite Heavy-Duty 5-Shelf Ventilated Shelving Unit, Gray (2 Pack) | 0155V01

 

I realized while going through everything that I've still got a lot of stuff in this closet that I haven't used in the last 3 years.  So technically speaking, if I haven't used it in that long, I probably don't really need it.  However, in addition to pitching stuff, I kept a lot too.  Don't ask me why because I guess the honest answer is, I like to look at it, since clearly I don't seem to use it!

I could say the same for a lot of stuff in my wardrobe closet too.  I just like to look at it.  Like some kind of wanne-be fashion collector. 

And then I'm reaching for a hat & workout clothes... and I'm out the door in that boring get-up once again.  Insert big sigh...

 

I digress.  Back to the closet... it may not look totally different, but it FEELS different to me.  And as for my soon-to-be-interior design major daughter, she walked in midway & said... "I really don't think those poles look good like that."

Really?  You really think I was going to leave it like this?  I'm space planning right now.  There will be another shelf on top, but I had to order it.  LOL

 

Literally still laughing out loud even typing this.  SMH.  She clearly doesn't have much faith in me, but trust me... I've taught her everything she knows.  And man am I envious of what she's about to learn!!  So wish I could see all her projects & sit in on her classes!!

Here's some non-recent BEFORE pics though.  There was quite a bit more clutter & boxes of stuff that were in the closet prior to these old pics that were taken, which ultimately lead to me doing something about it...

 

And AFTER...

Here's an inexpensive over-the-door shoe organizer I used for all my paper punches. 

Everything on the wall is basically just random stuff that inspires me, makes me happy or reminds me of my former paper-crafting days, which by the way, I'd like to return to soon.  3 of the things on the wall are Bryn's art work, which I always love to display...

And yes, I did make all the greeting cards, minus a few that I purchased & just stuck in there...

As I mentioned earlier I had a pretty big craft room.  Within that space, I went from an entire gift-wrapping station, featured on Great Day St Louis several years ago, to a couple shelves now.  And actually I was featured on Great Day St Louis again with the rest of my craft room a year later.  So I'm pretty proud to say that you CAN downsize & still have a space that is organized & functions just as well... even if it's not TV-worthy. LOL

I agree it's probably odd to have your printer in a closet, not to mention a paper cutting board as well, but I like the fact that for aesthetic purposes, these "work" items can be hidden when I close the door to the closet.   But for my own purposes they're still at hip level & easily accessible.  And as you'll also notice, I left the original closet shelving alone, figuring it was something the next owner wouldn't have to mess with replacing if I ever did move.  Annnnd... it allows for additional storage anyway...

The zebra rug makes my heart very happy. 

 

And by the way... just in case you're wondering about the shoes in the first pic, they're also something I just like looking at.. because I mean... calf hair & animal print... are you kidding me?  And well, I like wearing them too, but I can't say they're good for anything fitness related. 

 

Steve Madden Women's Cliff Sneaker, Animal, 8 M US

Fashion over function,  I say... LOL

XOXO

Rise up!

 

Since not everyone I know follows Bloom Fitness Studio's Facebook page, I thought I'd share our most recent blog post here... since well... I wrote it... LOL

Check out Bloom's website & all of our blog posts right here.

 

 

 

It's already the middle of April, and Easter weekend is here! 

 

Traditionally for some this might mean jelly beans, the Easter Bunny, dying eggs or wearing a sundress & a bonnet (and usually in Missouri...that's likely with a winter coat over it). 

 

In Biblical terms, it means that HE is risen... that death leads to LIFE. 

 

 

Whatever Easter means to YOU though, this can be a great time to decide to RISE UP in your life.  This might mean physically rising up in a literal way, but it can also be in an emotional or spiritual way as well depending on what you're feeling or experiencing in your own life right now. 

 

What is necessary for you as an individual though, will likely involve doing something different in your life... to let go of the past, to let go of what was, to shed the old and make room for new... a rebirth of YOU, so-to-speak. 

 

What are some of the ways you might consider RISING UP?  And what does that even mean?

 

Think of this as a time of TRANSFORMATION... a time for dramatic CHANGE in form... a time to let things DIE that no longer serve us well, so that we may become the best versions of ourselves!

  

 

If you think of things in nature with reference to Spring... plants, trees, and flowers have to shed the old to BLOOM or come ALIVE again and show it's new beauty.  Can you imagine if trees didn't lose their leaves or if we didn't prune plants?  It would actually INHIBIT growth.  It would inhibit new life and the ability to begin again.    

 

Every day that you wake up and breathe, you have the opportunity to RENEW your life.  You have the opportunity to TRANSFORM yourself by making different choices that will serve you better. 

 

We are here in this life to THRIVE not just survive.  We are here to GROW, not to remain the same. 

 

 

It's very easy to SAY you want to make changes.  But are you willing to do the WORK in order to make it happen?  It's a choice we have every single day.  And every single days presents us with the opportunity to transform, no matter what challenges we might be facing.

 

What do you want to create in your life?  What are you willing to give up to make that happen?  What can you allow to DIE in order to create space for your own transformation?

 

 

You have to GIVE UP to RISE UP. 

 

 

Here are some ideas to get you thinking about your own renewal...

 

1.  Master your mornings.  RENEW your mind daily.  The ONLY way to make changes is to be purposeful about it every single day.  Our days are better served when we begin them first thing with positivity.  Rather than immediately checking out social media and seeing what everyone else is up to in their life... how about taking some time for YOU instead. You might consider meditation, visualization, writing in a journal, reading & learning something new or watching an inspiring video.  What are the things you want to accomplish today?  Write them down & feel the joy in checking those things off your list as you complete each task or goal. 

 

2. Wake up earlier.  Your days can be more productive if you wake earlier and get your body moving with some exercise.  While it might seem that you'll feel tired that day from waking earlier, that workout will actually GIVE you more energy for your day ahead.  Consider also going to bed earlier at night to accommodate for this.  Sleep matters just as much as movement. 

 

3.  Shed some of your unhealthy eating habits.  No, you don't have to perfect everything in your life overnight, but deciding to remove one unhealthy habit at a time can go a LONG way.  Start by removing one unhealthy thing today.... maybe it's soda or your daily Starbucks... and replace it with something healthier... like more water.  Your body is meant to feel good and to thrive, but it needs the right fuel in order to do so. 

 

4.  Schedule some time for YOU.  Granted we don't always have the extra money to spend on ourselves for things like massages or manicures, but carving out some free time for you to read, write, get crafty or take a walk around the neighborhood, can make you feel just as rejuvenated and pampered. 

 

5.  Prep for your week ahead.  This might mean mapping out your week on the calendar or taking Sunday evening to prepare your meals for the week in advance.  A little extra time prepping can save you a lot of time and stress during the week.  And when it comes to meal prepping, you're setting yourself up for more success when you pre-plan with healthy options!

 

6.  Get honest with yourself & others. Do you find yourself saying yes to things you really don't have time to do?  Or over-committing yourself because you feel guilty saying no?  Remove the F.O.G. from your answers to others... and ask yourself if you're agreeing to do something out of FEAR, OBLIGATION or GUILT.  Ultimately, you're only doing yourself a disservice when you say yes, but you really want to say NO.    

 

7.  Instead of saying no, say YES.  Do you find yourself saying no to things you're afraid to try?  Do you worry that you'll look awkward in a class at Bloom, for instance?  Have you ever caught yourself saying,  "I can't do that... I don't have rhythm... or that's not me."  This is a great time to shed those fears and do something outside your comfort zone.  Remind yourself that we were ALL once beginners. 

 

8.  Garbage in, garbage out.  What are you focused on? Where are you putting your energy?  Who are the people you're surrounding yourself with most of the time?  If you surround yourself with toxic energy, guess what you'll be fueled with.... toxic energy.  Change what you're feeding your mind, body and soul.  Maybe that means less social media time... maybe that means a new circle of friends... maybe that means more time at the gym and less time in front of the computer or TV. 

 

 

 

 

These are just a few ideas to get you started.  And how we choose to RISE UP is individual for all of us. Ultimately though... it's up to YOU to create the right conditions for your own GROWTH.  It's up to you to not inhibit transformation in your life.  It's up to you to step out of what you've deemed a comfort zone. 

 

Rise up and attack each day with enthusiasm. 

 

You've been given one life, but you have the opportunity daily to begin again and flourish.  And you are worth it!!

 

 

 

Happy Easter, Bloomsquad!  We are so grateful for you and want to help you continue to become the best versions of yourselves possible!  ♥

 

Reminder that we are closed on Sunday, but we'll be back at it full force on Monday!!

Losing body fat boils down to these 7 basics...

 

 

Read an article today that I wanted to share regarding fat-loss. 

Unfortunately there's no magic solution to it or quick fix weight loss diet.  There's also no way to spot reduce.  In other words... if you're looking to lose belly fat, the biggest way to do that is to change your eating habits while also staying active. 

To be honest though, sometimes it boils down to looking inward to what you're eating AND what's eating you. 

It can simply be a matter of not having learned the right way to eat... because let's face it... we typically learn our eating habits from our parents, so it can be up to us as adults to relearn things about diet and better nutrition.

It can also be a matter of dealing with the stuff going on in your heart and mind though.  Some habits, diet or otherwise, are a form of self-sabotage.

 

I certainly don't have it all figured out & can always stand to make positive changes, but I do like to share what I know to be true about what works with physical fitness and nutrition. 

We get one body. 

Sometimes we get wake-up calls & second chances with our health that force us to do it, but we can always take the initiative and make positive changes in our lifestyle to avoid consequences. 

Ultimately the goal isn't skinny.  The goal is to be healthy and FEEL good.  Strong bodies... strong minds. 

Our bodies are designed to move and feel good, so let's DO IT!  ♥

 

 

Don't Believe All the Fad Diet Hype - Losing Fat Boils Down to These 7 Basics

1. Eat in a healthy calorie deficit.
2. Focus on healthy fats and lean proteins.
3. Don't totally give up carbs.
4. Be active outside the gym.
5. Lift weights.
6. Try HIIT.
7. Get enough sleep.

 

It seems like every day there's a new headline on the internet or a new coverline on a magazine promising you can slim down in days, shed belly fat with just one ab move, and completely transform your body with one specific fad diet.

In reality, losing fat (which is really what people want to lose when they lose weight) boils down to these simple basics. We tapped registered dietitians and personal trainers, who explained how to lose body fat and keep it off for good. For starters, you'll want to get rid of that Shake Weight and those weird body-wrap things and actually start eating carbs (yes, carbs!). Scroll through for more expert tips.

Eat in a Healthy Calorie Deficit

Ultimately, losing weight is all about calories in, calories out. In order to lose weight, you have to burn more calories than you take in. "You have to create a deficit of 3,500 calories to lose one pound," explained registered dietitian and ACSM-certified personal trainer Jim White, owner of Jim White Fitness and Nutrition Studios. "This can be done by burning extra calories through exercise or reducing your intake of calories, but the best way is to use a combination of both methods. This ensures that you're giving your body enough nutrients during periods of weight loss."

However, eating in a 3,500-calorie deficit doesn't guarantee an exact weight loss of one pound. There are a lot of other factors that impact how your body loses weight, including stress, sleep, and hormones.

Although you should eat in a calorie deficit, he doesn't recommend anyone eat fewer than 1,200 calories a day. And since calorie needs are highly individual from person to person, Jim recommends meeting with a registered dietitian if you can to assess your needs and your goals. If that's not a possibility, you can use this formula to calculate your estimated calorie deficit for weight loss.

 

Focus on Healthy Fats and Lean Proteins

For your diet, you should load up on whole foods, with an emphasis on lean protein and healthy fats. "Focus on healthy fats like olive oil, avocados, seeds, and legumes that will help your body by feeling satiated," explained registered dietitian Shana Spence, MS. She also recommends eating lean proteins, such as chicken, fish, or plant-based proteins like tofu. "These also fill you up and leave you satisfied," she said.

As far as how much of these macronutrients you should eat, Jim recommends a macro breakdown of 40:30:30 — 40 percent carbs, 30 percent protein, and 30 percent fat.

Don't Totally Give Up Carbs

Like Jim said, 40 percent of your diet should come from carbs. So even though low- and no-carb diets are wildly popular, to lose fat for good, you'll still want to eat carbs.

"Many people make the mistake of going low-carb or trying to cut carbs altogether; you want to do the exact opposite," Shana recommended. "Our body needs carbs to survive: it's fuel for our body and brain."

As for what type of carbs to eat, she recommends complex carbs that have fiber to fill you up. "These can include healthy grains like quinoa, which is also a protein, whole-wheat bread, oats, barley, or farro."

Be Active Outside the Gym

When people think of activity for fat loss, they usually envision hours on the treadmill or taking an intense Spin class. In reality, to get in more activity and boost fat loss, it's all about just moving more.

Eric Bowling, NASM-certified personal trainer at Ultimate Performance, said he encourages his clients to be more active outside of the gym and increasing their overall steps to 10,000 per day minimum.

"This little addition will increase your daily activity and rapidly boost the total amount of calories burned throughout the day," he said. "This is called nonexercise activity thermogenesis, and it's one of the most effective fat-loss tools most people overlook."

Lift Weights

Yes, cardio burns calories. But people often neglect strength training, which can help you lose fat for the long-term. Eric recommends lifting weights three times a week starting out. Weightlifting will help you build lean muscle, which burns more calories at rest. It will also change your body composition, so you'll look more toned and defined.

And don't be afraid to lift heavy; it will help you lose fat, not get bulky. If you're just getting started, check out this four-week strength-training program.

Try HIIT

HIIT, which stands for high-intensity interval training, can help you get in an effective workout in a shorter amount of time. In HIIT, you do a period of all-out exercise followed by an even longer period of rest. You can do HIIT with bodyweight exercises, weightlifting moves, or cardio, such as sprinting on the treadmill.

There is some evidence that HIIT can target belly fat. Eric is a fan of HIIT and recommends people do it one or two times a week to lose fat. HIIT can also help you achieve EPOC, or excess postexercise oxygen consumption, also known as the afterburn effect, during which your body keeps burning calories even after the workout.

To get started, check out some of our favorite HIIT workouts.

Get Enough Sleep

And while diet and exercise are important for fat loss, many people tend to overlook another important lifestyle habit: sleep. A lack of sleep could increase the production of the stress hormone cortisol.

"When you are sleep-deprived and cortisol levels increase to keep the body running, you will likely experience fatigue, increased food cravings, mental fog, and lower 'real' energy," Eric explained. "All of these will impact your effectiveness in the gym and impair your adherence to an eating plan."

Aim to get seven to nine hours of sleep a night.